Wrong way to (sexual pleasure)I am SICK..HELP me PLEASE?

Question

i am a teenage girl.i am seeing these dreams.even when i am awake. i like to be torture in it.i see men force me to have s*x with them,they also hit me,whip me,and make me do humiliating positions naked.i enjoy these fantasies.but after i finis my minitus of sexual pleasure..i hate myself.i don't wanna do these bad things in bed with my boyfriend even if i like to.please tell me how to get rid of this.i now about(BDSM)and that stuff.but i don't wanna be this type.don't wanna be a bad girl.i will do anything yo be normal

Answer 1

You are not sick. Your problem is only that you have an over-active imagination. These are usually the dreams of a young teenage boy who has had illicit access to some adult p**n.

Next time you feel one of these dreams coming on, just do what a boy should do and have a cold shower. It's amazing how quickly these fantasies disappear when faced with the prospect of a few moments in really cold water.

Answer 2

I get ya. Listen up, ok? What you are experiencing is perfectly normal. Somehow, it is common amongst the female psyche to secretly yearn for such things. Right now it is fine because it is stimulating to think about while pleasuring yourself. It doesn't make you "bad". OK? Furthermore, when you get older (late 20s,30s or 40's) there will be that one man who is really into you and understands you. He will help you safely explore those fantasies and you will thank him for it. The results are in, young lady..... You are a human being and you are fully in control of your own self. Use it wisely. Peace in the middle east.

Answer 3

Sara;

Ask your lover to be a bit more assertive.

To be more rough in bed with you without actually telling him your fantasies.

Wanting it rough does not mean that you are a bad girl.

Many woman want it a bit rough because we can have s*x for the sake of having it, or we can make love, just as the mood takes us.

Answer 4

it has been proven many times that alot of women fantasise about rape ect. its normal, just because you fantasise about it doesnt mean you want it to actually happen to you, It doesnt make you sick at all. Alot of couple act out stuff like tht. Dont worry about it hun, you are normal x

Answer 5

dont worry, do what you like, whatever it is.

you can watch bdsm p**n, if you like, you can have weird fantasies, you can talk to your bf, what you want to try in bed.

whats the problem ?

Answer 6

You might wanna try it out then if its horrible then the dreams will probably stop .... but it depends how old you are whether you want to try it out though. x

Answer 7

Okay. I am assuming the guys in these dreams are raping you. Remember that even though you 'enjoy' these dreams at the time, rape is when you DO NOT want s*x and would do anything to avoid it. Plus, there would probably be alot of pain. and i mean A LOT of pain. If that dream was happening in real life i bet you wouldn't enjoy it.

It is normal to have these dreams.. i mean, i've never had any of these dreams before.. and i don't think i want to.. many women out there enjoy rough s*x and like being treated roughly, nothing wrong with that, and if you do choose to have rough s*x, have a 'safe word' in case anything goes wrong and you immediately need to stop. Some people even put belts around people's necks and handcuff each other and whip each other for pleasure during s*x.. if you like it, you like it.. you can't change who you are.. but remember to have a safe word because people have actually died from these activities sometimes because they didn't have a safe word

Answer 8

you are not a bad girl!

you are normal

everyone has fantasies, it is perfectly normal and healthy.

be sure to stay safe.

Answer 9

Think love not pain.  Love should not hurt.  

Answer 10

to be honest, i wouldnt mind my boyfriend to give spankings again nya~ ♥ however,

if you dont like that kind of kinky thing, its your decision.

I'd suggest try to watch cartoon shows that might keep your ideas away from more adult things. Try things like Flapjack & chowder from cartoon network. ♫

Answer 11

Your dreams may be a secret desire you may wish to live out. There are people who live a life style based on BDSM. You may wish to go on line to some of these web pages, to help you find an answer. I my self am into BDSM, I like the idea of tieing my partner and toying with her until she climax's. That's just me. Your not sick. It may be something you may like to experience. I hope you find your answer.

        Later

        Armando

Answer 12

you cant change what you like unfortunately. so what if you like a bit of bondage? more ofthen than not it would really turn your boyfriend on. theres nothing wrong with it, its quite accepted in todays culture.

Answer 13

Hey I also find rape quite intriguing, only I would like to rape a girl and not "get raped" like you......but then no one can call me a bad person because I've never done so and never will because I haven't lost my head. that will always be a fantasy. Don't let it bother you. Maybe you can get someone you trust - your boyfriend or your husband to slap you around or tie you up as foreplay or whatever if you enjoy being "raped"......hmm,,,,we and our fantasies....... you aren't a bad person, just different......chill

Dont let anyone you don't have complete confidence in, handle you, but if you find a nice guy who loves u.....enjoy getting raped =D

Answer 14

You're not sick sweetie. There's lots of people who do BDSM. You are what you are. Please don't hate yourself for being that. There is no wrong way for sexual pleasure; as long as you don't force it on another human being, or on kids.

You're perfectly normal, you just have a fetish. Don't hate yourself, like I said there's lots of people with  the same fetish. Those things are not "bad" as long as you can walk away and do things with your life. You're not a "bad" girl.