Wtf...He just called me a ....?

Question

My b/f and i were arguing and he told me i was f-ing retarded, annoying, a bi*** and on two occasions in the past, he has said "i hate you"...i know he doesn't really, hate me, but still.

Does he really mean all of what he says? How many guys really talk to their girls like this? I don't know if i'm alone in this or not...and i don't really talk to him that way...

Answer 1

People say things they don't mean when they're angry, but if it's a pattern he might not be the right guy for you. Does he apologize later for what he says? If so, then you know he doesn't really mean it, but if it bothers you too much you might need to move on because he's unlikely to change. Good luck!

Answer 2

One thing.. he needs to get that straight,you dont ever call a woman a F**king r****d or annoying B***h or even say I hate you. If i were you i wouldnt let him speak to me that way. I'll be d**n if someone speaks to me that way and then they still love you? No. Not in my book. If he wants to speak that way he can go speak to his mother or his friends like that. You dont disrespect anyone that way, unless maybe you did some name calling also.

Answer 3

idk to much about you to but i can tell you he has a big problem with when he gets upset and mad. that is not really good at all b/c it can end up with a lot more then just saying words. i would say it is taking over him when he is mad or upset.

Answer 4

He was mad, and speaking in the heat of the moment. I think that when people say mean things to you, even though they are not in their right state of mind, they mean it. They just don't have the nerve to tell you. People need to have more respect for each other, and I suggest that you talk to him about it, clear things up, before things get any worse.  

Answer 5

He is very rude and doesnt deserve you.  His comments are meant to degrade you and that simply is not right.  Its one thing to argue about something specific, but to degrade a person is just mean.  Dont take his s$&* and tell him if he cant respect you then its over.  You will no longer allow him to call you names.  More than likely your arguments are over small insignificant things.  Try not to argue as much as you will find most arguments are just plain silly.  Either way, still no excuse for him to degrade you.  I bet if you called him a fkn loser he would be extremely hurt.

Answer 6

In rarity, guys do talk to their girlfriends like this, but they definately shouldn't. If he's talking to you like this, I'd say talk to him about how it hurts you. And if he doesn't change after the talk, dump him.

No guy is worth that.

Answer 7

Ohkay, fight or no fight, thats pretty messed up. Anger issues much?!?! If you dont talk to him like that, he has NO REASON to talk to you like that. You should tell him how you feel if its starting to be a problem, i kno you wouldnt want to start up another fight, but still..... if this continues you should do something about it, becuse thats all types of fu*k3d up...

Answer 8

He means everything he says.  Not any guys I know talk to their g/f like that.  If I were you I would not stand for it.  This is just the beginning of a bad relationship.  I would look elsewhere for a new b/f, one that respects you in every way and one that will listen when you argue without bashing you with names etc.  Good luck to you.

Answer 9

I have heard language just like this from friends of mine and it is so over the top, I can't stand it.  No, he doesn't hate you but he is letting the emotion of whatever you were arguing about get in the way of his better judgment.  When things are calmer, I would let him know that you did not appreciate what he said and that it cannot happen again.  If it does, and you let him get away with it, this problem will only become worse.  Don't tolerate it.