Y am i not wanting s*x?

Question

my partner and i have been together for 5yrs we av an 17month old baby 2gether but for da last couple of yrs i just havent been interested in s*x i still love him n find him attractive but i just cant b bothered wen we are finally having s*x im ok but its just getting started dats da problem i just dont no y i feel like dis it is causing alot of problems in our relationship could any1 give me sum advice thanx

Answer 1

Well, you need sleep and to spend time together. Even if that is just mooching in bed reading on the weekends, with your toddler crawling all over you.

Are you on the pill? That can zombify a woman's s*x drive.

Answer 2

you are in a rut.  all couples go through this.  Get a sitter and ask him out for a date, spice it up.  I know what you mean it is like exercising you don't want to do it but after wards you are glad you did.  Men don't understand but you would probably feel rejected if he was turning you down.  I blame it on hormones, tired, medications, no romance,  need to watch one of my t.v. shows, lol.    

Answer 3

I think it's normal to some degree. Especially since you have small children, and you've been together awhile.

It's good that the love is still there, and you find him attractive. It just sounds like you two are in a rut. It'll take some effort to bring the s*x back into your routine, but if you want it to happen, it'll happen!

Answer 4

Are you two getting enough sleep and rest?

Are you two both physically fit and healthy?

Have you tried something to spark up your love life?

Tried any aphrodisiacs, magazines, movies, romantic dinners, candles, scented bed sheets, massage, going on dates again??

Answer 5

s*x is a part of life, you can't avoid it.

Answer 6

You might have some post partum depression that has been ignored. Having a child is an overwhelming and enormous task especially if you are breastfeeding, instinct kicks in and maternal mode is in full gear. It is okay to feel this way for a while but it has been going on for too long I think. there are a couple of things you can try

A night off from baby, I know how hard it is to separate, but the world you and baby are in is not the only one that exists. You have to make some time for the people who are living with you especially hubby. You cannot allow the connection to be broken. You need to get a person you are comfortable leaving baby with for a night.(grandma's, aunt's, closest friend, etc..) go out to dinner, then come home or go to a hotel and bring along the edible lotion so you can get a nice soothing blood flowing, toe curling massage which will lead to great climatic moments.

You can take an afternoon off and dedicate to you and your hubby and nothing else. Maybe some tantric techniques can bring you closer together, this is great to mend broken connections, it is more than just s*x too you can focus on the eyes, or the lips and make the session about that. make it good you got to be home for dinner

If none of the two appease to you then maybe a visit to your gyn, or a therapist or someone that can prescribe you something to get out of the rut.

Incorporate baby when doing things that were just for the two of you there are three now so just try to make it fun.

Post partum depression if left untreated leads to many things incluing full blown depression, it also manifests itself in many ways it is not just the not bonding with baby either, sometimes it is other things. look into all your options and start mending any broken connections. I wish you nithing but success

Answer 7

things change after you have a baby your s*x life ain't like it use too be. try talking to you partner about how you feel, if something can't be solved then maybe look into a counslor or a doctor about this maybe they can give you something or spice your s*x life up somehow . i know what your going through myself, still looking for answers good luck