Y do guys get intimidated by pretty girls?

Question

i dont get it? it took me 4ever 2 get a bf, they chek me out n stuff the whole night, n it looks like they will come 2 talk 2 me, but NO duzn happen, we arent b*****s or mean, y do alot of men assume were gonna tell em off or reject them straight up? ive been told by a guy that thats what guys think. n only the guys with the balls come up 2 us, y dont the sweet, romantic guys take the leap?

Answer 1

a lot of guys also think the same way.

Answer 2

because many guys are afraid of bieng shot down-

this is indicative of low self-esteem if you are still this way and out of school.

in school years, everyone has insecurities and are in the process of overcoming them.

it isn't so much that they think you are a *****, but that thier own insecurities and fears tell them that they don't measure up to you.

I agree with you-

there is still some ego thing to some people about bieng shot down, if you dont' take the chance, thats the same as bieng shot down-

we are told no for most of our lives, so hearing "no" when approaching a girl should not be taken personally- its just the way it is.

you might try smoothing things over also and giving off body language that makes you seem more friendly and approachable.

smile, be more open, girls learn body language and subtlety much much much much much better than guys do, maybe you need to be more obvious with yours as guys don't always pick up on this.

Answer 3

It sounds like the guys are misunderstanding you, maybe because of your personality or because of the crowd you hang out with. Just work on being friendly to the guys - if they see that you're approachable and possibly interested in them, they'll be more likely to ask you out. Good luck!

Answer 4

Hmm...growing up, I've always been the smart girl and that's kinda what intimidated guys. I've never known a pretty girl to intimidate a guy unless the guy was real shy or something because they were afraid the girl might break their heart or something.

Answer 5

because most hot chicks are stuck up and wont talk to you unless youre rich, tall and good looking. or willing to buy them something.

Answer 6

maybe the 'stuck-up' attitude?  

Answer 7

Hmmmmpphh.....I'm considered to be hot or even gorgeous (from what people always told me,it doesn't come form me)....of course,after so many  years of men and women telling you how hot you are and gorgeous,you start to believe it yourself.Honestly,I've been picked up on by nice guys too......Yes,most of them were cocky jerks....but some were actually nice,romantic guys....I'm not sure exactly why they don't approach you.Maybe it's the attitude? I'm pretty distant myself,from what I know,but I still got nice guys come and talk to me.It was mostly when I was alone,though.Like,apart from the group or something.They won't come talk to you as much when you're with your friends....because they don't wanna have all the eyes and ears of everyone on you two.lol You know,it's lame like that.Every time I parted myself from the group or something,they came and talked to me.You just have to put yourself in the right situation for that,in the right circumstances.You need to ease his task one way or another.Sometimes I glance at them and they get it,so they come,and sometimes I don't even look at them ,but they still come,because I'm alone.:)

I don't know exactly what else to say.But this is what I've noticed with me.When they see you alone,they gain the courage and come.

Ok,I don't  want to make this sound weird or trashy,it's not like I hang out to places all alone to get picked up on.lol That's actually one thing I don't have in mind when hangin out with friends.But,there's akways someone noticing you and if you notice him back....and actually like him,you must do something about it.It's like creating a favorable,encouraging enviornment,situation for you two to meet,for him to come talk to you.And when I do notice someone I like,I act all natural and stuff,don't make it too obvious....like,pretending like I wanna go to the bar to buy myself a drink,or just anything to part myself from the crowd.And when I do this,they SURE come,SURE.But,it also happened when they just came and talked to me despite of all my folks being there and hearing everything.lol It depends on their confidence level.

Good luck.

Answer 8

cause guys are intimidated by pretty girls for sure especially with hair like mine.

Answer 9

Becuase nice guys like me get insecure when they see a pretty girl, then start thinking they aren't good enough.

Answer 10

y do guys get intimidated by pretty girls?  I usually do if they are armed ....because girls can be unpredictable ....and especially the one who write as if they come from somewhere in the Appalachians.

Sash.

Answer 11

Boo you are straight trippin. If I see a hot chick I talk to her if i have the chance.

Answer 12

They just dont have the confidence and once you find a guy that has the balls to approach you, it will be worth the wait.  

Answer 13

well whoever said that to you is true the romantic guys are be the ones that usually are afraid because they have had run in probably in the past of some girl that probably as of attractive as you and got rejection after rejection and it continues so they kinda just afraid to ask or find out but the bad guys don't care they keep on doing what they doing so that's how it goes you heard of the nice guys finish last that's usually true cause of what happen in the past and the romantic sweet guys are the ones that you probably payed less attention to in high school or middle school but its gonna take every attractive female to talk to more guys not just you know male jocks or some model looking dude if they start talking to some average looking guy or something and every girl does this i guarantee more girls be asked out on more dates by Sweet guys  

Answer 14

Most guys usually assume that the really good looking girls are taken, unless she makes it clear that she is not. And yes rejection has a major part to play, there isant 1 guy who has not been rejected by a really attractive girl for anouther guy. Try approaching them and talking, will make a world of differance !

Answer 15

Plain and simple, its the rejection and potentially looking like a fool in front of people we know. We watch our friends do it (usually the crass guy he likes being a ***) and see how woman destroy them...so we think thats going to happen to us if we approach them.

Besides its a style, a sweet romantic guy is going to try a approach that is non threatening to you...he likes you and wants you to be comfortable...because he already cares what you think.

Guys that just throw themselves up at you, usually have a ego...because they don't care how you respond...or think they are all that and you will automtically like them. Ok a few guys are just confident, from my expince there are A LOT more of the former types.

Answer 16

I love how you think the reason it took you forever to get a BF is because you are pretty and couldn't possibly be something else.......

Someone is soooooooooooooo full of themselves

Marco!