Y do people think that teens cant have true relationships?

Question

my bro was 13 and went out wit dis girl and now they thinkin bout getin maried. and now i got a gf and im 13 an people r sayin it wont last

p.s. my bro is almost 21 and shes 20

Answer 1

It may last or it may not. My husband and I met when we were 16 and seventeen and now we are married with two kids. It just depends...at thirteen you shouldn't enter a relationship for the reasons of getting married though. Anything could happen at this age. I do believe that if its meant to be it will happen, just take it slow..one day at a time. She might be the right one...then again maybe you won't find the right one until your 18, 20 or 35. When its right you will know. Even with my husband and myself I had no clue when we started dating that we would be where we are today! As time went on for several years I began to realize he was the one. Don't worry about what others say... only you can know the answers to your heart.

Answer 2

because you're still going through puberty and hormones are rushing through your  body which makes emotions feel stronger.

heard the song puppy love??? i'll give you the better version...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BCuoiSOHO...

Answer 3

Well first, I've asked questions on here before, and you could have typed out "brother" "girlfriend" "are" etc and still had plenty of room.

Just pointing out.  But don't worry, as you get older hopefully your grammar will mature as well.

I remember having a boyfriend when I was 13.  I thought this was it.  I thought I was in love.  I thought we would grow up, get married, have babies, and the such.  Then we broke up.  And now, being almost out of college, I see the difference between the relationship I am in today and that very first boyfriend.  Sure I liked that first boyfriend, but it wasn't the same feelings, because I was still growing up and maturing.

So it may work out with your and your girlfriend.  But there is the higher chance that it won't.  People change.  Always.  And sometimes they may seem great at first, but then as they change they may become someone that you are not compatible with anymore.  That's life.

And the definition of a "true relationship" changes as you get older.  It goes from just simply holding hands at school to going out on dates.  So for a 13 year old, this might seem like a true relationship.  But for those who have experienced all of middle school, high school, and even college and have gone through relationships in all stages of their lives, that relationship is nothing but puppy love and won't work out.  How do they know that?  Well...life teaches you a lot of lessons.  Most of which you haven't learned yet.

So go back to school, please please please use correct grammar and spelling next time, and best of luck.

Answer 4

well me and my fella started goin out when i was 16. he was 21. we fell straight in love, got engaged after 3 months, bought a house, had a baby and got married. i am now 23 and we are still so in love and tryin for baby #2. s***w what anyone else says, its your life, you live it. :-) x

Answer 5

OMG the reason is because when ur dating at 13 its not going anywhere! It deafently not going to marriage and tzhats what dating is all about. Finding your spouse for life.

And u dont love her!!!  

Answer 6

I believe you.  Is your girlfriend as retarded as you are?  Then it will last :)

"dis" is not cute anymore, got it?

Answer 7

who cares what other people think

Answer 8

Because plenty of teens seen dating as a trend  

Answer 9

They can, it's just REALLY REALLY REALLY unlikely.

And if they do go on to get married, the rate of divorce at young ages is extremely high. People change so much in their late teens and early 20's, in a couple years you're strangers.

It's very unlikely for someone too young to drive, unable to spell properly, and dealing with puberty and zits to have a mature adult relationship.

Answer 10

For most, at the time it feels very real but later on, they realize that it was nothing compared to the real thing.  I do believe for some people though, it definately can be real.  I went out with the same guy from the age of 13 to 22 and it was very real.  

Answer 11

Because they normally can't

Not at 13 usually.  And sometimes, its just not a good idea.  You settle with one person, and then if somebody else comes along who makes you happier, you leave them for that person.  Sometimes its just better to get to know a lot of people and date a lot of different people before you get stuck on one

Answer 12

With some people it does, with some it doesn't. When your younger, many want to experience life, and many have a few partners before they settle down.

With age comes maturity.

Most of the people I know are not with their first partner, but saying this, I am sure there are people that are.

Young love is sweet, but the real test is when your a little older, live together, pay bills, get married, gave kids.

Answer 13

ppl are idiots and nobody understands. i wish ppl would just think back to when they were younger...and then think why it didn't work out...was it age?NO!was it that they weren't mean to be?YES!!! i don't get ppl...they are all retards who don't understand S**t. Ppl just need to understand..but they never can and they never will... we all know that they are trying to ruin other kids childhoods because when they were young they couldn't get a gf/bf worth c**p!well that just goes to show u how much ppl have been hurt in their life...and their trying to hurt ppl just to show them how badly they were hurt? told u...ppl are all so stupid.

Answer 14

people are nuts... i mean i know MOST relationships don't last but that doesn't mean that you won't stay together... but i had a relationship that was perfect and it got ruined so you never know wat your gf will do but pretty much you will be fine if you two really like each other :)

Answer 15

It's not that teens can't have true relationships, but the reality is that as a teen you are still changing a lot, and you will continue to change (as a person) through about your mid-twenties.  Up until then, it can be very difficult to know for sure who you are, what is important to you, what you want to do with your life, where you want to end up, and what kind of person you want to share your life with (even though you always THINK you know all these things!).  The danger in tying yourself to one person so young is that you'll both change and end up realizing that you're not right for each other, and if you've gotten married and/or had children while very young, it greatly complicates things.  

Answer 16

I met my husband in Middle school when I was 13, but the love that I have for him now is much different than what I felt for him then. A person's concept of love is just not as developed at that age. As an adolescent it is only natural to start experimenting with interpersonal relationships so that you can discover your own likes and dislikes. The intense feelings you feel are more akin to infatuation. You will understand when you are older. That infatuation may grow into love later in life.

Answer 17

You need to go to school, grow up, and learn to write and spell. I can only understand part of your question because the street grammar you use is so bad. Anyway, "lighting up" is not the way to tell if you are in love with someone or not- and who are you talking about, yourself or your brother?? If it's your brother, who cares what people think- they are both adults, and presumably,they are old enough to know what they want out of their lives and each other. You, on the other hand, are barely into your teens- and right now, your hormones are out of control. THAT'S why people say that teen romances don't last- because generally, it's only too true. What you think is love is most likely just the "hormone of the month" kicking in.

Stay in school and get an education- then "lighting up" when someone talks about you or your girlfriend won't be necessary any more.