Yahoo mummy - do your yahoo daddy have the same levels of patience as you.?

Question

i stay at home with my girl, she is 1. her daddy works long shifts, so its very rare he takes her as he works late mostly, so i let him lie in the morning.

when he does take her, i feel like im constantly saying, dont talk to her like that, she is a baby, she doesnt understand what to do to make things better so she can stop crying.

he doesnt shout at her, its sometimes just his tone.

example:

this AM i didnt feel well, i was up at 6.30, at 8 i woke him up and asked him to get up with her and to wake me in an hour. so i got up and was making her breakfast, she was crying because she was hungry. he was saying come over then, i cant help you if you dont want to sit with me, it will be 2min etc. just his tone was as if she should understand mummy is coming with it and she should be patient.

are your daddys like this?

dont get me wrong, he is wonderful with her mostly, and she adores him and when they play together she is so excited and happy.

Answer 1

omg.. i think we live the same lives.. i feel the same way!!! haha  

Answer 2

no, not as patient as me but definitely as loving. olivia is 3 months and my husband is already on this "kick" where he believes olivia should start playing and being by herself. she likes to give her daddy a hard time though, im a stay at home mom and shes with me all day. he feels im spoiling her by soothing her to sleep...lol....ohhh men, what can you do.

Answer 3

My husband is not as patient as I am with our 1 year old.  He scolds her more and she will cry.  He's not as careful with her either and she gets more bumps and bruises.  Still she usually prefers him over me.  She has said Daddy for months now, but still will not say Mommy!

Answer 4

Lets see. I'm at home alone with them for 10 hours on a daily basis and he barely has any time alone with them. It's me who is lacking in patience.  

Answer 5

my ex husband was! Enough said!

Answer 6

Mine is not, but he has really surprised me as a father because he is so disciplined in all other aspects.

This is one of the only things I *ever* get frustrated with him on.

On the contrary, they can do no wrong with him, even the oldest (10) who occasionally tests her boundaries (I think we're getting into the pre-adolescence hormonal moodiness some days, oh yay), and I had to explain to him this week WHY his daughter (15 months) cannot bite him even in play- because she can't get the idea it's okay to go around biting! This is a man who holds a PhD in polymer science; but when it comes to his children, he is just fluff. An idiot, almost. (But not quite :) Luckily they're good kids.

Fortunately he is fairly 'fluffy' with me too and I think his only boundary is respect- they have to show me love and respect(and obviously respect teachers and such when older). But beyond that...

marshmallow supreme :)

we balance each other. It sounds like you do too.

Answer 7

I think all men aren't as patient with toddlers as the moms are. At least every guy i know is that way. I have two daughters 4 and 2 my husband loves them to death and they are both very much daddy's girls but he does yell at them more and loose it quicker with them. We just have this thing now where he walks away. Or i will yell at him to get his butt up and do whatever is needed. He is getting better but i don't think he will ever be as patient as me.  

Answer 8

i think males play a different role with children. my partner is brilliant with my daughter but as you say, he has less patience with her than me, but i think i am sometimes too soft with her.  She seems to know this and responds differently to us both,, but i almost think that this is maybe not a bad thing as long as he is not unkind or cruel in his way.