Yea im 18 years old but adopting a child isnt for me im asking what do you have to do?

Question

adopting a child is for my mother and not for me i just wanted to know what you have to do

Answer 1

well its very hard to adopt anyways so if its not for you then don't do it. But if you ever did then  you'd have to go to an adoption agency.

Answer 2

No one is giving an 18 year old a kid...

Answer 3

What do you mean? your mother is adopting a child? for you? i dont understand... what advice do you need?

Answer 4

Contact an adoption agency.

Answer 5

So you're adopting a child and giving it to your mom? This question is really confusing.

Answer 6

it's not really your decision. so yeah.

Answer 7

If adopting a child isn't for you, then don't adopt one.

If your mother wants to adopt a child, that's her business and not yours.

Answer 8

The process goes like this, however, I just wanted to make sure you're asking for your mother, because it is illegal to adopt a child and give it to your mother.

1st of all:  For foster care/adoption-there is an office within the DHS offices that specialize in this, and you fill out an application, give them proof of income, pictures of your home, etc, to let them know all about you.  They'll come do a home study, making sure the home is clean, but doesn't look like someone gave it a once over just before they worker got there, and they'll measure the bedrooms if there is any doubt about square footage, as there has to be a certain amount for each person in the home.  Everyone who lives there will be under some scrutiny, and will have to undergo criminal background checks, and checks for elderly and child abuse.  Then if she passes all that, she'll probably be as a foster parent for a while, and matched with a child appropriate to her.  The cost is very little, although the state is a little more specific about home improvements, and even if you rent is fine.

If you go through an agency, there'll be lots more costs involved, but this is often the only way to get a healthy, domestic baby.  They'll run the same background checks/home study and interviews.

Third:  If you know of someone who is pregnant and can't keep their child, you can go to an attorney who handles adoptions, and they will draw up the paperwork, the birthmom will sign the consent forms, according to your state's laws, there is a time (ours is 10 days-some go up to 1 1/2 years), that the bmom can change her mind before the adoption is finalized.  At the end of the 10 day(?) period, there will be the 1st court hearing, the judge asks a few simple questions, and the temporary adoption decree will be drawn up.  At the end of all waiting periods (ours is 6 months), an additional visit from the home study people (their # of visits vary from state to state), and there will be another court hearing and a final adoption decree ordered.

There are many things that can slow the process, so patience is a virtue in adoption.  We chose private adoption, because it was the easiest, fastest, and we were allowed to adopt a newborn baby, even though I'm 41 & dad is 43.  Also, they don't measure your stairways, etc, so the home study is a little easier, although they did deeper on criminal checks (We had nothing to fear).  I was also surprised to find out that something like a shoplifting charge or non-violent crime far back in the past does not count against a person.  They also check and make sure there is a stable job history.

The rewards are great, but some people can't take the rejections that adoptive parents go through.  When a bmom changes her mind, or the state changes where they put a child, it takes a hard emotional toll.  It's like you have lost a child to death, and unfortunately, it's even harder in some ways, because you might know of the situation the bmom is going through and know that the child might be placed in harms way, and there's not a @#$ thing you can do about it.  Good luck.

Answer 9

if you're not feeling to adopt a child don't do it!!! no one can force you even your mother. if she wants to adopt a child why she don't go by her self and doesn't inter fir your life. you have to choose what to do with it!! good luck

Answer 10

have your own kid

Answer 11

You say that "adopting isn't for you" then why do you want information on how? Sounds like a recipe for disaster to adopt when you know this is not something you really want to do.

Besides at 18 no agency or independent adoption avenue is going to work with you unless it's a younger sibling that is left to your care should something tragic happen to the parents.

Answer 12

white kid?/ or black kid?

different.

White kid...usually a soviet union trip or two...............about 20000 and  with some luck you get a kid.

black kid................check local agencies,,,,,u will be investigated.......and maybe 10000

Answer 13

Ok, this is a wierd kind of question and I think you need to explain things a bit more in depth. Why are you thinking of adopting a child for your mother? I dont get it at all.