Yes, another broken hearted question...?

Question

Unexpectedly, my boyfriend left me. I can't get anything out of my head, I understand that it's freshly done (1 week) but I've been crying to the point where I throw up.

I was in a relationship where everything was perfect. But ever since my boyfriend started working again, he went nuts. He didn't want to play music anymore, he didn't want to see his friends anymore and he didn't want to be with me anymore. After telling me he loved me one night, he left for the weekend to see his family, he came back telling me it was over and he needed to find himself, After a very VERY painful week we met again to talk, I needed to talk, to understand. He told me that he needed to find himself, that he couldnt take care of me because he couldnt take care of himself. He didn't want a typical break, out of fear that he won't come back. On my side, I've never felt this way before ( i'm an adult) and I feel that it isn't the end, I just feel it. We agreed on taking care of ourselves on each of our sides and talk again within a month. He says he loves me still, but it isnt like it used to be in the beginning, that he has doubts about our relationship and he needed to think about himself. I could write to him earlier in the month if I wanted to and that he was going to think about me. Right now, I'm afraid, I fear that he won't come back, that'll he'll forget about me. I don't want to get my hopes up but I still want to see the good in this, I miss him...I'm pathetic.Advice?

Answer 1

Nothing wrong with feeling broken hearted...but dont put everything you are and all of your hopes into this one guy.

Dont wait for him forever,wait for him and then if he doesnt come back or takes too long,just move on and try to find another guy somewhere.

Doesnt seem like he is very considerate of your feelings and im assuming your better than that.

Answer 2

You are better off with out him, Dont wait for him forever

Answer 3

I'm so sorry for what you're going through, but it looks like he's not the guy that you knew anymore. If you still want to, cry for ONE MORE WEEK and desperately cling to that hope. Go ahead and gain three pounds on ice cream, consume ten boxes of tissues, and talk into your girlfriend's ears until they fall off. After a week, he's still distant, drop it. You have to move on in your life after it. Go out somewhere with your friends and revel in being single (it's a wonderful feeling, I should know) After a while, if you feel like you're confident and over it already, talk to him again. Make sure that he's alright. It sounds like he's distraught over something, so he's probably just as upset as you are, if not more. I'm 15 and have never experience such heartbreak, but even I know that you can't wait for him forever. Let him go. :] I wish you lots of luck.  

Answer 4

you need someone who knows himself,you will cry ok but eventually pain will go away,but don't go back if he ask you to go back don't because it not will be the same,find things to do to forget,try to visit a music therapist, is ts a therapy which you express your feelings by playing  instrumentrumentnt,sing or dance

Answer 5

  You are not pathetic!  You have every reason to be confused.  When a young guy says "I love you" it either means he wants s*x or he really loves you.  That's for you to figure out.  It sounds like either he's messing around (playing the field) or he's got problems with his family.  Have you met his family?  Did they like you?  Or is he using you for a safety net?  If I loved a girl, and only that girl, she would know it.  I would call her often, keep in touch, and even get her a ring, eventually.  Good luck, I hope this helps.

Answer 6

give him time to find himself. his mind needs to be right in order for your relationship to be right. be happy that there is no infidelity going on, bc that's a whole different story. if it was meant to be then things will work out. if not then you know the rest. just prepare yourself mentally either way. in the end things should fall into place. good luck. :)