Yes it costs lots of money and there is screening for adoption but?

Question

aren't there any adoption agencies that just want to give a child over to someone that can give a child a lot of decent respectful love, and an education, and some kind of roof over their head and enough food which doesn't have to be fancy, other than letting the children lie in cribs with no attention and less care than needed, less food than needed less warmth?

Answer 1

I really doubt it.  They need back ground checks and the proof you will be able to provide an decent home.  It is sad it can take so long yes, but I guess it is best if the child winds up in a good home.

Answer 2

Even if they "wanted" to do that, the liability would be too high for them to do it.  What if the family they "gave" the child too was abusive or there was a molester in the home.  Yes, adoption is expensive, and yes, there are a lot of background checks, but if it protects just one child, then it is worth all of it.

Answer 3

No!  In the first place, would you give your flesh and blood to a stranger who told you a pretty story without any screening of that person?  I wouldn't.  An ethical dog breeder screens people who want to buy puppies.  Do children deserve any less?

In the second place, a healthy infant is a hot commodity in this country right now.  Why--in a country so fixated on capitalism and profits that we don't have national health care like every other civilized nation--would anyone give away any "product" they can sell to the higest bidder?  I don't like this, but it's reality.

Why not look into foster care and/or foster-to-adopt?

Answer 4

foster care will!!! You can adopt a foster child for almost free, if NOT free.

Adoption agencies though are in this for the $$$$ They're not in this for the children so you won't find one just giving babies away, they'd still be with their parents.

Answer 5

They all want to give children a decent home.  It's not legally required that the home be fancy. If you're trying to adopt in your own country, then the birth parents pick you out of a catalogue so make sure you write a fantastic letter for them. If you adopt internationally there's no problem as long as the social worker passes your home as decent, they don't expect fancy.

Answer 6

These days adoption agencies are not charitable organizations that have a passion for the welfare of children.  They would like to make us believe that they are, but in reality they are businesses that want to make a profit.  So given the profit motive, they cater to people who have big bucks to pay for fees and fees and more fees.

These days the charities who do not charge big fees are more focused on helping families keep their children.  In particular, Catholic Charities is trying to redeem their past shameful practices of forced adoptions and bends over backwards to preserve family unity.

If you are talking about international adoption, yes, there are probably abandoned children who need help.  Even so those children deserve some guarantee that they will be placed in non-abusive families.  I don't think that the screening is the big expense.  The big dollars come in to play in pay offs to lawyers, facilitators, and orphanage operators. I have friends who adopted in China.  they had to sew money into their clothes for payments to the orphanage when they got their daughter.  That is the way adoption is - supply and demand rules.