Yes this is going to sound cocky but read the entire story before berating?

Question

I expect to get answers like what makes you think you are so special and who do you think you are? Honestly I don't and that is why I'm asking. I'm too embarassed to ask anyone I know because it sounds like a total ego trip and most of my friends know who my son dates and their acquaintances. I'm not an ego maniac and would just like a straight answer. I guess it's just that I really don't know what to do! I am 41 years old and never been married (I raised my son by myself & loved every minute of it as we were best buds and I'm very proud of him (he's 23 yrs old). Here's the problem. I am a fairly level headed guy and usually can take care of myself in any situation but this is different. Lately, I am having too much love interest passed my way (yes I know this sounds cocky but I swear it's the truth). My sons love interests+their young girlfriends+sisters+my nephews girlfriend+most of THEIR mothers (married or not) seem to be more interested in me. They text and call me (which can get pretty graphic) and as far as I know I haven't given them a reason to do so other than trying to be nice to them. It's not like I'm Brad Pitt or anything. I'm a normal looking guy with a decent personality but I don't consider myself anything special. So why are they hitting on me and how do I explain this to my son who doesn't understand either (these girls have actually told him how they claim to feel)? Now he's pissed at me! WTF. How do I explain this to him as I don't even know? There must be guys out there who have been in the same situation and have handled this in the past. What do I do? My son is the most important thing in life to me and I don't want him to resent me (especially for something I haven't even done). I have told these girls I can't get involved with them but they continue to come on to me. This is serious and I need advice from someone who has been there and handled this or possibly a young womans perspective. I try to live my life by not hurting anyone, but at the same time I can't allow my relationship with my son to go sour. Someone please help with knowledgeable advive?

Answer 1

First and foremost you son is 23 years old so you personal life is none of his business.

Now to the rest of your question. You are a rarity, a single 41 year old male. never been married, not many of those around.

The same thing happened to me at 42, of course the circumstance were different, I was newly sober, and recently devoiced. Had five women in my life looking for a husband. I finally gave up and married my present wife. Met her through her cousin which was a friend of mine. Anyway I don't see you as "cocky", or egocentric just a available 41 year old. Just enjoy the lady's, and I would assure you, you will have many pleasant memories in you older years.  

Answer 2

if you and your son are really that close, then you should sit him down and have a heart to heart, Hopefully he'll understand. If not, then continue ignoring those women until they finally get the idea. Eventually  they'll stop hitting on you and everything will get back to normal. Good luck