You are engaged to be married?

Question

because your boyfriend has told you he is prepared to behave responsibly and settle down.

however you find out he is fooling around on his motorbike ie roadracing. you confront him about this and he tells you he will stop.you take him at his word. you think the matter is settled until you get a phone call from the local a&e hospital. when you arrive you are informed he's broken his back further tests show he's one of the unlucky ones and he's severed his spinal cord.he will be paralysed from the waist down for the rest of his life.

do you stay with him and get married or do you think by his own reckless behavior he's ruined everything and ditch him?

Answer 1

are you in love with him and can look past this? I think that if you dont trust him than no you cant marry him. if you trust him and are in love with him yes.

Answer 2

If I truly loved him I would stay, there are plenty of "I love you's" but only one "I am in love with you".

Answer 3

Dump him. He obviously cannot keep his promises and has bad judgment. Not someone I want to be the father of my children.

Answer 4

it depends on how much you love him and how old you are.

Answer 5

I'd ditch him.  No question about it.  If I were willing to dump him before if he said he intended to keep roadracing, why would I change my mind later? I wouldn't.  If on the other hand, the injuries were the result of an ordinary car crash or something else, I still wouldn't marry him.  Not because I didn't love him but because it would be financially impossible to recover from.  As an unmarried partner, I could instead buy a home and move him in.  I would not necessarily have the medical insurance or other funds that he would get from Medicare to cover his needs.

Answer 6

I won't be marrying him but I am going to be a very strong presence in his life. I will ensure he has the proper nursing care and the best doctors. I will ensure his family is informed and support them as much as I can. I am also aware of great spinal therapies that I will try to make him a candidate for (hyperbaric medicine, nano-engineering, regeneration, etc). As someone in the medical field, I would not marry this person. However, I would be an advocate for them and lend support as much as possible.

Answer 7

Of course I would marry him. I wouldn't WANT to be married to someone who never took a risk, and I am not controlling so I wouldn't have expected him to give up the things he enjoyed anyway.

Answer 8

it really depends on you. no one can choose for you. It really depends on how much you love him if you can trust him again. think about it hard and you can make it. Try your best. Keep your head on tight. It gonna be hard but it your choice. Think about all the great time and the bad and really think!

god bless ya honey!

Answer 9

if it was my fiance as mad as id be for jsut aboute ver I coulsnt leave him no matter what!  love is love!  that doesnt change