You opinions please... regarding bachelor party...?

Question

So I have a little dilemma on my hands…

My husbands best friend (I’ll call him T))is getting married july 25th (yes it’s a Friday) and some of T’s friends have planned a bachelor party for T on the 24th. They are planning on going to a club from 9pm until 4am the next morning (yes the morning of the wedding!!).

So here is my dilemma…. I know about this event because my hubby just told me today- I think only because T asked him to let me know and asked that I don’t tell his future wife anything. T’s future wife will be in Banff on the 24th to get ready for the wedding. I know T’s fiancé wouldn’t be happy with this at all because she already asked T not to go to club without her. And the night before their wedding….come one!?!

I’m not to happy about this either because I don’t really want my hubby going to a club with a bunch of immature guys (yes most of them are not that great- my hubby told me how lots of them cheat on their gf’s)

Answer 1

you HAVE to tell the jerk's Fiancee.  Hopefully she will put a stop to this ridiculous plan !

Answer 2

Yes, tell her. Relationships are about HONESTY - he should have told her what was planned to begin with.

I predict that if she doesn't hear about it, their marriage won't last long.

... What a dumbass, btw.

Answer 3

Mind your own bussiness

Answer 4

do not get involved in their relationship. it is up to him to tell his future wife if he wants to, not you.

as for your hubby going... you need to trust him and just let him go without giving him a hard time

Answer 5

I think you should def. tell her. You know, and if she finds out after the fact taht you knew and didn't tell, then you're going to get some of the backlash, and you don't want to be resposible for this coming out on their wedding day and causing a problem.

NUmber two, this is ridiculous in the first place, whatever uys feel that they can use hiding behind a bachelor party as an excuse to disregard that actaul relationships and responsibilites they have to those they have a relationship with are not right. You need to let her know and put an end to this if you can, befor something happens. And they might still go, as outrageous as it is, but at least you will know that you stood up for what you felt was right. Good luck!

Answer 6

In my experience, if the guy doesn't have a track record for cheating and he isn't a jerk....then they're most likely just NOT thinking. I would tell your husband to talk to T or you will. T should be aware of the stupid decision he is about to make. Don't attack him cuz then he won't listen - Try to be understanding. He's a guy who obviously didn't think this through, thinks he won't hurt anyone, and wants to have fun. Suggest a bachelor party on the 23rd or earlier and maybe some other location than a club.

If that still doesn't change his mind....do what you think is best (and that might be telling his fiance)

Answer 7

Your husband is a mature man. If you trust him and have open communication with him... it doesn't matter what those clowns do or say. His heart is yours and going out with the guys, no matter how immature they are, isn’t going to change your husband.  

I would NOT tell the bride about the party. That will cause a huge rift and mess up her whole wedding day, if her husband doesn’t do that himself… getting married with a hang over! What an A s S he is… but that’s not your problem. A good wife will always find out.. and trust me, she will. She doesn’t need any help. So I would stay out of it.

As far as letting your hubby go with? I think you should leave that up to him…he can hang with the clowns and support his friend’s dumb butt move, or stay home with you and stay in your good graces and not p**s the bride off once she finds out.

Answer 8

Wouldn't you want to know? I would TELL!

Answer 9

mind ur on buisness

Answer 10

i say dont tell her she will be upset just let her enjoy her wedding day.she will probobly find out the next day when he shows up smeeling like alcohol and looking like c**p. this is why my bf and i decided we are nto doing a bachlor/bachlorette party...way too much trouble.we are doing a luaii bbq with all of our friends!we are apart enough as it is we dont need a reason to be apart another night.

Answer 11

o man this is one of my fears. i hate that bachelor party c**p. i know my bf loves me and is a great guy he wouldn't do anything. but i can't help be say "u never know what can happen." maybe i have trust issues b-c i was in a bad relationship before. i don't know but i feel u. it sucks but i think ur gonna have to roll with the punches on this one and trust him. even tho i know its gonna burn u up inside b-c u will never full know what happened on that night.

Answer 12

What exactly am I expressing my opinion about? I didn’t see an actual question.

I have a hard time thinking the bride doesn’t/won’t know the BP is the night before the wedding. This is an issue between her & the groom. They’ll need to work it out. I’m not sure what you think you should do or wanted to hear. There’s nothing more to say about it.

Answer 13

What does your husband say about these worries?

Answer 14

If you don't want your husband to go, then you need to work that out with him.  It is a totally separate issue than whether the party should be going on at all, which IS none of your business.  If her groom is going to do that to her, she will likely find out (we always do) and then it'll be between them.  Deal with your husband and let her deal with hers.

Answer 15

i would not let my husband go... i know that sounds horrible but thats how we are. i know he wouldnt want me doing that so then he wouldnt do it. tell ur husband how u feel! as far as ur friends future husband, i wouldnt say anything. i know that if i was the bride i would want to know but still i wouldnt say anything because they might fight about it and then it would put you into it... good luck!

Answer 16

I don't see what the big deal is.. He his marrying her and your guy is married to you... So i don't see the big deal. If you think it's worth getting your friend all hurt before the wedding by all means tell, but if this blows up in your face because she is going to be all upset on what supposed to be the happiest day of her life then i would just stay quiet. Your guy trusted you with his info and didn't tell you so you could go run your mouth. Suppose your friend did something that she didn't want her man to know but you told your guy...how pissed would you be if he went running to her guy and told the secret, then her guy told her "well so and so said blah blah... " you get the pic. I am so not trying to be mean but you have to look at it both ways. hope it works out...