You think he'll propose??

Question

Ok so me and the bf have been together for almost two years.. he graduated and is at basic training and im finishing high school.. we kinda talked bout a promise ring before he left but he was always touchy bout marriage.. now in his letters he's asking what it'd be like and how my parents would feel.. also itll take 5 years for me to finish school and he always said i have to finish before anything else.. now he's asking if we can shorten the time of being away from each other.. can anyone tell me their opinion on what he's thinking??

ive even tried asking his mom if he's said anything to her.. she says she has no clue what he thinking but if it is marraige he'll probably propose

Answer 1

It sounds like he's thinking about it.  But thinking and doing are two very different things.  I would ask him what he sees happening in the next year with you two.  You can open the discussion by saying that he's been saying things lately that make you think he wants to marry you soon.  You can discuss marriage as an option without ruining the 'surprise' of a proposal.  I knew my fiance was going to pop the question for months before (I had a strong suspicion he would do it on a trip to visit my family) but he still managed to surprise me at the moment he did it.  I thought he was messing with me when he started his speech.  I had even eyed his pocket but didn't see a ring box (he had the ring loose in his pocket).  There is a lot more to a marriage than the proposal so you should get used to having open honest discussions about important issues.

He may be homesick or he may be influenced the guys at training with him, either because they are all married, engaged and he sees it as a normal and good choice or simply because he realizes he misses you and you are important and sees how lucky he is to have you.  Guys tend to get the itch around 30 but being around other married guys can make a guy start thinking about it too.  Now this may not last when he's not around them anymore so make sure you have a decent length engagement and don't rush so fast he regrets it or gets cold feet.

I also don't think there is a point to getting married very quickly unless you have religious/personal issues about living together.  As long as you both know that is the goal, and you live your lives loving each other, does it matter when you walk down the aisle?

Answer 2

None of us can read his mind. It may be nothing more than being homesick and missing you. If you are just 17 or 18 and finishing high school, you are too young to even consider marriage or even engagement yet. Take it slow and keep studying!