Younger Sibling Problem Kind Of Long?

Question

Alright from the start me and my brother never got along with each other always fought and hated each other and always will. I am 21 and he's 18 the thing is he isn't the smartest kid he barely thinks before he does things so he's usually causing a ton of trouble/problems even my parents call him a dumb *** and stupid not to his face though. The main thing I notice though is that we were raised completely different my father though it was right to teach a kid there doing something wrong through pain so I got the **** beat out of me with a belt. While my brother got the "don't do it again" yelling treatment which is why he doesn't take things so seriously. But my parents know he's not the smartest tool in the shed and help him along and giving him handouts. Also seeing as i was the first they learned the mistakes with me and are trying to help him. Know its taken him some time to figure out that I cant hurt him without getting kicked out so know he constantly taunts me and try's me, of course the parents tell him not to but he continues seeing as hes the angel and gets away with everything.I can't move out right know due to money issues and not having a car at the moment so that option is out.I am just at the point where fighting him and beating him into a bloody pulp is the only option. If anybody has any other suggestions I am all ears, or simple ways to make his life a living h**l. Its just to d**n stressful on my part having him constantly nag at me.

Answer 1

Beating him up will only get you kicked out.

About all you can do is stay away from him and let your parents deal with him exclusively.  Your only worry in this is keeping the kid out of your room and staying off your parents' radar.

You need to focus on your own immediate future: earning enough money for some transport (how about $2500 for a new 250cc Kymco scooter?), saving some money to put down on deposits for your own place and utilities, and getting into some kind of vocational training at the local community college.

In other words... keep your eye on the prize (independence) and don't get distracted.

Answer 2

It's not easy being the oldest - I know.  But you're 21 now, certainly your life must be full with either school and work or both and friends.  Focus on your life, your hopes, your aspirations.  Doing what you need to do for yourself should allow for minimal interaction with your younger brother.

Your relationship may never be perfect, but it should get better with age.  Each time you feel you wanna to kill him, remember he's your brother.  Be the man he can look up to and want to model rather than one he wants to taunt for the h**l of it.  Show him that the time has come to grow up.

Good luck.