Your Opinion Please?

Question

A man works the midnight shift and his woman works days. However, she wants him to call her at night, while he is on his job and speak with her for 2-3 hrs on the phone until she falls asleep on him. Though he is delighted to speak with her for a period, she gets upset if he doesn't wait until she falls asleep on him. He is on his job and his time is limited, but she doesn't seem to understand this. Is this man being selfish or is she being controlling?

Answer 1

She is being selfish and controlling.

The man has a job to do and cant be on the phone for hrs and she needs to understand this.

Answer 2

He can decide after his butt gets fired.

Answer 3

She must be young or something, that's ridiculous.

Answer 4

clear as a glass of water-she's selfish.& oh boy how self-centered & chlidish too.can't she get a life of her own & stop being a baby??& can't he either make her change her ways or move on & meet somebody who's more considerate but won't center her life on her man alone?

Answer 5

yeah, thats a little much. at least.

Answer 6

Well, she is being a bit unreasonable. You are on the job and you have rules you have to comply to. You have to do your job. It's normal for her to miss you and it is hard to be on opposite shifts but she has to realize that it's not that you don't want to talk to her...it's that you can't. She is being a little selfish and immature. You're just going to have to try to explain to her that your job just doesn't allow you that kind of time and that you love her and will talk to her as much as you can, but that's all you can do. She just misses you, so try to be understanding of her feelings as well. Good luck.

Answer 7

She's being selfish that's for sure. How would she feel if you insisted that she spend half of her work day on the phone to you? How would her employer feel, and how long would she be working for? A quick goodnight wish should be sufficient.  

Answer 8

Well I have a similar situation, My bf works days and I work nights. I would never ask him to talk to me all the time, nor would he ask me to call and talk to him until he falls asleep. I am at work and has a job to do. And he needs to sleep so that he can rest.

We do talk to each other occasionally on both of our shifts.

So that man is not being selfish, but the woman wants attention. This has to do with the messed up schedule.  

Answer 9

My husband works the nightshift and I work days. I have to say that is a ridiculous request. First of all she is being selfish expecting you to place your job on the line to talk to her every night. Plus if she went to bed earlier and went into work earlier, she can spend more time with you at home.

Answer 10

The man needs to tell the women that he just can't stay on the phone and that his job will be on the line if he does so.  She needs to find a friend or pet or get a job working the same hours.

Answer 11

She is being immature.

Answer 12

She's being unreasonable!

Answer 13

still controlling...