Your Opinion which is worse?

Question

Which is worse.. On and off foster care for an extended period of time or termination of parental rights and being placed for adoption. I am just curious. What you think is the worst for a child.

Answer 1

Foster care is much worse. It is very unstable, and a lot of foster parents are only doing it because they want the check they get from the government for raising them. There are some good homes, but a lot of them collect them like candy and ship them to another home when they don't want to deal with it anymore. Adoption might be worse for a short period of time, but there are many women out there dying to be mothers who can't. You're much more likely to get a good mother out of an adoption than you are from foster care.

Answer 2

they both stink!!

its possible to provide a safe, secure home for a child who has been removed from their family, or who's family cannot provide for them, without violating the child via adoption.

Adoption, isn't the only method of providing love, strength, security, nurture, stability, shelter, food etc. to a child who cannot for whatever reason be raised by his/her biological parents.

Foster care / adoption / or death? definately not!

Answer 3

As a hopeful adoptive parent I would say that from my experience working with children in foster care and those who have been adopted I would say that adoption is the best solution for a child if there is safety issues with the birth parents and in the case of infant consent I would say open adoption would be better.

Answer 4

Well if the family is not working out in the foster homes then you should keep working till u find the perfent family

Answer 5

foster care because they are just hanging out with  permancy.  At least with termination they have a shot of getting  adopted

Answer 6

i think on and off foster care is worst cuz a child is like a white paper copy what is given and when there is changing of situation continuously that is hard for their mind to cop up with as a result it affect their mental to be more eager and not able to have a normal way of live when they grow up, in other hand adoption is not good but compere to the above one it is better and it may be the best one cuz sometimes the adopter may treat the child like their Owen kid and he may have good life.

Answer 7

My son's birthmother chose adoption for her son because she grew up in foster care and hated it. That should speak a lot about the foster care system.

Answer 8

they each have negatives

mostly regarding Abandonment issues

I would rather live in a foster home if I was safer there than with my parent

good luck

Answer 9

Research proves that on off foster care results in far more mental health issues than termination of rights and adoption. Because of this there has been several new laws enacted to terminate rights more quickly and to have permanency. This includes asking foster parents if they would adopt the child if the parental rights to the child are terminated. Even so, the child adopted thru foster care is less stable than the child who is adopted from birth. The thought is that the family does not attach as well not knowing FOR SURE that the relationship will be permanent.

Answer 10

I wouldn't wish either on a child.  But for the mental health of the child then the fewer transitions the better!!  So I would have to go with termination of parental rights and an adoption would be better.

Little ones need to feel secure... and sad to say that on and off foster care is HORRIBLE for children.  They often have RAD which is often just called attachment disorder and can lead to horrible behaviors because they don't learn normal basic things like right and wrong!!  The children learn how to be liars and master manipulators to get what they want.  They act out more and more just to get negative attention because that is what they know and become accustomed to.

Not to mention that so many children "age out" of the foster care system and never feel like they have a real home and someone to love them and count on!!  You can just imagine being juggled around all of your life between your parents with issues and different foster homes that have openings when you can't be with your parents... never feeling safe with your parents and never having a family to love you and take care of your basic needs!!  The kids that age out don't have a family to spend holidays with, or someone to call when they need to borrow $20.00 until next payday, or a mom or dad that you can talk to when you get your heart broken, or you are pregnant and need advice, etc.

Answer 11

Foster care is worse than adoption. On and off foster care is worse than being in the care of the same foster mother. A child needs a stable environment to grow up in.

Answer 12

I don't think there's a single right answer. It depends on the individual situation and the reasons and the child. In general, I think stability is very important for children and it would make sense for the child to be able to be placed in a permanent adoption situation and that would involve having the biological parents' rights terminated. This could be really painful for the adults if they really don't think it's the right thing, and of course, it can be really painful even if they know it is the best thing. I think the peolle involved in this kind of situation need to seek professional help from someone who is educated in these types of issues and also holds no bias and has no stake in the outcome. There needs to be someone who can help sort out what's going on and let the people involved come to their educated decision. Education and information are key. Understanding how each decision will effect the child is vital to making the choice. It is not a cut and dry answer and it should not be looked at as though it is. If the parents are healthy and not involved in addiction recovery, the reasons may be very different than if the parents are ill and/or suffering from addiction.

Answer 13

Adoption would be better for the child.

Answer 14

Foster care is worse.  Being placed from home to home, while parents rights should have been terminated from the get go is stressful to the child.  I have read recently that most states only allow a bio parent 15 months to get their life together before a child will be put up for adoption.  I think this is good.

Answer 15

I think foster care is worse for the kid, no kid should be put  foster care, i think adoption is okay.

Answer 16

Neither-birth control is better