Your engaged to be married.... an ex confesses his undying love?

Question

what do you do?

Answer 1

Sheeeeeeeeeeet... is all I have to say... this is only a toughy if you still have feelings for your ex... who do u love is the question? and if your stuck in this situation and aren't sure what to do, then maybe you shouldn't get married now as he might not be the one for you? when you love someone no other guy comes close.

Answer 2

If she cannot say to him "sorry its over, i've moved on" and leave it at that...then she is not ready to get married to the guy she is with

Thats not to say she doesnt love the guy she is with, or they shouldnt get married sometime in the future...

but when you are going to commit your life to someone forever, you should be absolutely sure

and if an ex coming in to the picture is enough to place any doubt in your friend's mind, then now is probably not the right time in her current relationship to be getting married.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

Hi tell your friend that the fact that she put on the engagement ring should tell her something,she must love the guy for them to be engaged if at all she still loves her ex she should search deep down her heart to see whether that is enough to loss the guy she is engaged to..i would encourage her to let the past be the past and marry her man but if she fills she can't go through with the engagement then sit down with the man and tell him the truth because there should be enough love in a marriage to hold it together..good luck to her and think very hard before she acts

Answer 5

tough sh*t.  i found the guy i want to be with, so that ex will just have to go away.  he's an ex for a reason.  i wouldn't marry someone just to get married.

Answer 6

You tell him, sorry, but you have moved on. Unless you haven't moved on.

Remind yourself (or your friend should) about why you are engaged to your FI. Grass always seems greener, but usually isn't. It seems awful convenient that all the sudden he "confesses his love." Why didn't he do it before? Some guys just want what they can't have.

Answer 7

The fact you're even asking this question says you shouldn't be getting married.

Answer 8

i would think God or the Devil is testing me big time!  so, what would i do?  i would pray, actually....then, go from there.  

Answer 9

Stick with the man or woman they're engaged to. besides i doubt the ex really means it, the ex see's what they're missing out on and regrets that they aren't together anymore and will do anything to try to get them back.

Answer 10

Personally, I think that an ex is an ex for a reason. I wouldn't throw away everything I have now for something that is in the past.

Answer 11

I'd Do Nothing.

They Are An Ex For A Reason.

Answer 12

It doesn't matter what the ex feels or thinks. What matters is what your friend thinks and feels. Does she love her fiance? Is he the one she wants to spend her life with? If so....then who cards that an ex confesses his undying love?!? Sounds like his problem to me. And he can be the one to deal with it. Seems like he's the loser who waited a bit to late.  

Answer 13

dont marry anyone unless u really feel dying for sumone..!!

Answer 14

My fiance had that trouble with an ex. He wasn't any good to her during their relationship anyway....(he cheated, lied about alot of stuff), so it wasn't too hard for her to tell him to take a long walk off of a short pier when it came to that one.

What you have to think seriously about is.....your fiance. Do you love this man? Is he good to you, for you? Is he someone that you can see having children with, growing old with? If the answer to all of them is yes....then your decision is easy when it comes to your ex. The problem only happens if the ex actually fits that mold better than your fiance does. (ie...most likely you messed up and it lead to the break up and not the other way around). Ex's are an ex for a reason...but you have to figure out this for yourself. Nobody can tell you who you can and can't love. You just love who you love. But remember that just because you love someone doesn't mean they are good for you (if they aren't...you shouldn't be with them...cuz it leads to drama, turmoil and heartache).

Just weigh your options carefully, and really search your heart.You'll know what to do in time.

I hope this helps.......

Answer 15

I think that he is an ex for a reason, and so I'll keep him that way. If he really loved me he would want what is best for me and want me to be happy no matter what, even if it wasn't with him. If he cannot see it this way he isn't in love with me.

That's what I think.

Answer 16

Go with your heart, which ever way it goes.

Answer 17

You tell them that you're happy with your life now and are getting married.  

If my ex came to me and said that I would laugh.  Tell him that we were never meant to be together and that if we had gotten married, we would probably be divorced by now.

Answer 18

go to a country that approves of polygamy and get married there.  

Answer 19

Simply she must listen to her heart.

Though one question to ask her is ... Did this ex come back to confess to her, after she recently got engaged?? If so, to bad so sad, too late.

Though you should have noted her reaction, was it of Anger or Despair ? If Anger, she should move on, if Despair ... she may need to consider 'what this ex really wants, and what he can offer'??

Though she must carefully consider her fiances heart and plans for the future also.

At the end of the day, the heart will tell her.

Answer 20

Usually... there is a reason that person is an ex, and it doesnt have to do with love. The love may be there, but are these two people also compatible? Share similar life goals? Are they happy when they are together?

Love alone wont make a marriage work.

I would stay with the person I was engaged to, provided we were both in love and compatible.  

Answer 21

tell him to build a bridge and get over it! funny how he discovered his undying love when she is about to get married, but that's how they are.

Answer 22

I would go through with the marriage and forget about the ex.

Answer 23

tell him you are engaged and he missed his chance b/c you are so flipping happy and nothing could change it.