Your opinion, single mom-school and work or just work?

Question

I have 3 kids. ages 6, 4 and 2 I have very limited help with childcare.

Should I go to school part time and work part time and just scrape by financially? this would give me much less time with the kids because of my homework required, they would hardly ever spend quality time with me. But when they are older i will be making more money.

Or should I work full time and just scrape by financially and have more time available for the kids? This means that once I am able to work more (when they are all in school) I still will have no skills from education to work with and will always make just enough or almost enough money. I would most likely work a low paying job for a very long time and not be able to afford much, ever. But my kids would have me around much more.

What are your thoughts on this? whats the best way to go?

Answer 1

Definitely school.  Especially if you can find a one or two-year program that will give you the skills to earn more money and not have to scrape by any more.  Most colleges and technical schools offer financial aid so parents in your situation don't have to work too much in addition to going to school.  There may also be online degree programs that you could work into your schedule to reduce the need for child care.  You still have to do homework for online classes, and you'll need some child care, but they might be more flexible. Some online schools even offer financial aid.  Your kids will benefit much more from you having a good and rewarding job in a year or two than from you spending a few extra hours with them now.  I can tell that you're a very committed and loving mom.  They will be OK.

EDIT: You may be able to go to school and not have to spend any more time away from them than if you work full time.  There are some really good financial aid packages out there.  At least check out your eligibility.  You are right to be thinking in the long term and not just for the next year or two.   It won't be long before they're in college, and things look very different then.

Answer 2

Whatever you can do maximize your time with your kids is the most important thing for parents.  I do not agree with those that think they are setting a good example by working at acquiring more "things".  This, I believe teaches our children that moms value is based on her ability to buy her kids stuff, not that time with one other is paramount.

Your kids may not appreciate having clothes from Walmart instead of H&M, but when they grow up into responsible, caring adults, you and they will reap the benefits.

Answer 3

I think you should go to school and work...not only will you be setting an example for them latter in life you will be setting yourself up for a better life and your children. It might suck while you are in school but you have to think of all the benefits. My husband and I were working 4 jobs between us and going to school full time you just learn to make time for certain things.