i'm married and lately (4-6 weeks) my husband seems like a very different person.
at first i suspected cheating, but i don't anymore. he has been hanging out with his work buddies a lot more, drinking. not out at bars, but at his bosses house. he has a new L*****n butch friend. and also he has been working maybe 14-hour days 6 days out of the week. he works at a wine bar & grill. he asked for the extra hours and he says he loves his job and all the people there.
the last three weeks on ave. 2 nights out of the week he has stayed out at his bosses house because everyone had been to drunk to drive. i did suspect cheating for awhile, even drugs. he's changed so much and i don't know what to think.
i could understand that he'd be tired from working so often, but he is turning into...well, a a*****e.
logic tells met that i should leave him, neither of us seem to make the other happy. i want it to work so badly, i'm trying. he isn't. i've brought up divorce before and he said no. he didn't want it. i think i've become too sensitive looking for any sign that he cared.
we used to be so happy together. now i feel the worse i've ever felt in my life. i didn't do anything wrong. i don't know to do. i do try talking to him, somehow it just doesn't work. i cry, he gets offended and upset.
he came home this morning to get ready for work and i showed him a bug bite, something had bitten me. he made a lewd joke about someone giving me a hickey or something. he seemed to honestly be joking, not bitter or accusing- but i have never known him to make stupid immature lewd jokes like that. and i've never shown him any reason to think im cheating on him. i told him that it was really mean and insensitive . he didn't seem to care that i was hurt, so i asked why he didn't seem to care. he started to raise his voice saying "you just spent five minutes telling me i'm an insensitive jerk" so then we started arguing over what i told him! he started to leave without saying goodbye so i called out "thanks for saying goodbye!" and he came back and responded "you just called me a insensitive jerk, if you want me to be one, fine i'll be an insensitive jerk!" and he slammed the door and left.
seriously you guys, how could this happen? i don't know what i did. why is he so mean to me? what can i do?
he came home to get ready for work because he had stayed at his bosses house last night, i swear i was trying to keep the peace and not seem upset at all, i've gotten used to it but i still get upset. he used to be really sweet and so nice and so understanding and caring. i'd like anyone's take on this. any opinion? any advice?
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