Your personal opinion of worthlessness?

Question

My boyfriend (or well... thats difficult to understand...but you'll see) and I have bad depression. I have been seeking counseling and psychiatric help, but to no avail as of yet. My boyfriend, just like me, has pretty much felt worthless his entire life. But, lately it just struck him hard. He had to deal with stuff like this in the past, and when he saw people he got no help out of it, so now he isn't trying to get help at all. And, I can't force him because I'm not around him, and I can't even cheer him up.

Now my question/your opinion is two-folded.

#1: I know I have my own problems but he means a lot to me, what can I do to help him feel less worthless? Quite honestly right now I am his only true friend. I have been telling him that he makes me feel less worthless... that he helps me. But, he keeps saying that it's just not helping him because he just really can't like himself.

Oh p.s. suicide isn't likely, as I tried to commit recently and he about lost it so he made a deal with me so that i would never do it... he won't. we went as far to say that since we truly care for each other.. that if one of us commits suicide... that its likely the other will too, and we care too much for each other to have that happen.

Now my opinion, is, do you think it's likely he will overcome this, and that I can actually help him? We are technically on a break right now, because he can't love me when he hates himself. So I guess I'm a bit worried about our future. But more than that I am really worried about his health. Just wanted your opinions!!

Answer 1

Life throws at us what it thinks we can handle. Not to say there arn't struggles but he has to look to within and see what he see's if he doesn't like him self it is up to him to change it. we all go through rough times and counseling is usually a long term solution meaning just a couple visits are not going to help

Answer 2

It sounds to me like you both need professional help immediately! Please don't wait until it's too late to get help. There are amazing medications that can make life seem livable again.

You both need to be secure with yourselves and happy with who you are independently before you will ever be happy together. It's good that you have each other for support, but you both need a broader support system.  This is a sad disease that takes the life out of many people. If someone is not open to getting help, then anything done to help them will not work. If you are open to therapy, it will work.

Try to go to therapy with an open mind. Let your boyfriend know that you are doing this and keep him updated on how much it is helping you. If you are negative about it, he will see this and be even more resistant to it. Try to be positive about it.

MOST importantly... DO NOT let his depression bring you down. Get out, do stuff, anything. Get a job, make friends, join a gym, you control your life, you control your happiness. Start redirecting your thoughts to taking control of your life. You can do it!

Answer 3

wow both of you are depressed? then i think the best thing is helping one another.. and feeling worthless is the worst feeling ever. it will make you feel not important and will make you isolate yourself from others. i think?