*posted in singles and dating but thought I'd see what psychology people may say too... so, sorry for the double post.
I dated this guy who I believe truly cared about me at the beginning. He told me once that he did and that he could possibly love me. I think I was too scared to start a relationship with him especially when he kept propositioning me when I wasn’t ready. I think I drove him away and then well, when I finally decided I was ready he had moved on. I guess in a strange way his bitterness afterwards towards me was his way of seeking “revenge†although I don’t know why he’d go so far as to lure me out to where he moved to and have his way with me solely for his benefit and without regard to my feelings still baffles me. I thought he was a better person than that. Perhaps he is, just wasn’t meant to be with me. I think he is a good person deep down but then here’s where I get stopped up. If he was such a nice person he wouldn’t have taken advantage of me the way he did without regard to my feelings. I keep going around in circles and its really starting to drive me nuts! Just wish I could turn off the switch and make this stop playing in my head. Perhaps he did mean more to me than I meant to him and that’s ok I guess. I just wish he didn’t hate me.
It still upsets me because I do this with a lot of good guys I meet. I push them away when they start to get close and I have no idea why. I met a guy in University and he was perfect for me. The type of guy I wanted and could see myself married to, yet when he wanted to get close I coward and then he left. I don’t know why I do this suppose maybe I just haven’t found the right person for me and maybe when I do that will be easier and not so stressful.
So I guess what I’m asking is:
1. Do you think he “hates†me or cares for me but thought it best to let me go?
2. Any body else know what I’m talking about? Have any advice? Know why I do this?
I know I need to move on and that’s what I’m trying to do, but I need to understand why this always happens before I can, so if anyone can offer up any suggestions I’d appreciate it! Thanks in advance!
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