(for men) What is the appeal behind the 'Money shot' in p**n?

Question

To be a tad more specific the money shot means when a man ejaculates on a women's face at the end of a pornographic film.

I'm curious what is the appeal behind it?

Do you think it is demeaning to women?

Are you insulted if a women does find it demeaning?

My boyfriend LOVES that part of a porno and i do not understand it and feel insulted by it. But it got me a tad curious of WHY men like it.

I'm not here to critisize men. This is to help me understand the land mine which is my boyfriends brain.

Do men actually think women enjoy it?

Answer 1

People enjoy s*x in different ways. Some want it to be an intimate, genteel, civilized, almost sacred experience and others want a more wild, carnal, uninhibited and taboo experience. I think most men gravitate toward the taboo experience. This is the most satisfying s*x for a lot of people, not Hollywood romance s*x.

Coming on a woman's face is considered naughty, so men like it for this reason. The same reason why many men and women like dirty talk, oral s*x, anal s*x and anything else considered taboo amongst polite society. This is part of the appeal of p**n. It pushes the envelope when it comes to s*x and allows people to experience and see things they may not be brave enough to do in real life.

This comes back to the Madonna/w***e dichotomy. The male ideal is a woman who exhibits ladylike qualities out of the bedroom, but is a w***e in the bedroom. s*x is an interesting playground and allows for many possibilities. It may not be for everyone, but both men and women can enjoy being demeaned during s*x. Look at the recent case with Max Mosley. Also, many women who are not particularly kinky, get more aroused when a man takes control in the bedroom.

The problem is society makes people feel guilty about their sexual fantasies, whether it's the Puritans, Victorians, conservatives, religious institutions, feminists or any other moralist. Personally, I think the only grounds on which something should be considered morally reprehensible sexually, is if it is forced on someone or someone is manipulated into an unwanted act. If it's consensual, then it's all good. Many of the more radical feminists thought they knew what women wanted sexually and are now discovering even strong, intelligent women who have all the freedoms and choices men do, can still freely choose to be sexually accesible and even submissive in the bedroom. There's little more sexually arousing to a lot of heterosexual men than a strong woman who will submit. A submissive woman who submits, does not compare. The main thing radical feminists succeeded in doing in this area, is making women feel confused and guilty about their sexual desires and fantasies.

Answer 2

Me an my b/f don't think it is nice behavior and very demeaning as well

So ,I do agree with you,even though I am g*y.

Planets.

Answer 3

i know i am not a guy, but i just want to say about your last question..

'do men actually think women enjoy it?'

personally i do enjoy it and i know plenty of other girls that do. and it does not make us s***s or whores... some girls actually do just enjoy it.

Answer 4

its different for everyone. some women enjoy it because they like the attention they get from the man while he is working on getting off. some men likes it because it can (not always) be a dominating act. some men just like to see it on the woman's face. i'm bi and i love doin that to a woman or have a guy do that to me. i do not think it's insulting, or degrading (unless that's they way you like to see it and that turns you on).  i feel that if it's between consenting adults then there is absolutely nothing wrong with it and it's safer than having unprotected s*x with random people :P

Answer 5

Just looks good to see him *** on her face.  

Answer 6

feeling of domination maybe?

Answer 7

I dont think its to degrade or dominant I think its to express a gratifcation that at last I can have what is sexually frustrating, you see a women has 5 major areas the are turn on's ( legs,a**,p****,t***,face and cumming on anyone of them is a way of saying "there I finally had her im satisified now"  

Answer 8

To me nothing

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To some men that is a turn on

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So to us you and I it is a bummer in doing it like that

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Put it where it belongs inside her some where

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Answer 9

As with all aspects of s*x, there are no absolute, right/wrong answers. Each individual has a right to their preferences and each couple find their own enjoyment. Personally I get very turned on by seeing s***n on a woman's face, in her hair and elsewhere on her body, particularly as it ejaculates. Why? I really can't say exactly. It's not because it degrades her in my view, although I know many women find it degrading - including most of my girlfriends. I think it's more to do with a combination of exhibitionism and submission. Many men like submissive women and this is a very submissive act. I also like her to watch me release myself in close proximity. Now that doesn't mean girls are expected to like it. Most of my girlfriends have not. But my current girlfriend is fine with it - she actually asked me to do it, from both oral s*x and also from masturbation. She is Asian and says it is considered normal in her culture, where s***n is considered nutritious, good for the skin and, above all, a sign of masculinity. It is not dirty, it is the source of life. She also knows that men like it and she wants to make me happy. She is disappointed if I can't produce much and elated if she gets a shower. SO we are both very happy.  

Answer 10

yes i think it's demeaning to women

no i am insulted when she doesn't find it demeaning

i don't think women enjoy it, they seems not anyway

Answer 11

i am guy i don't like ejaculate on a girls face first it is sticky and it smells and i wont be respecting her desires i wouldn't be a good bf and it is more pleasurable for me to ejaculate inside her  

Answer 12

I don't think the woman in the movie care one way or the other, she is in it for the money. The only reason they do a money shot is a woman can fake a o****m, a man can't.

Answer 13

Some women do enjoy having men 'dot their eyes." lol

Answer 14

why would it be demeaning to to her SHES IN A PORNO, that demeaning enough, i mean she did want to get naked and have s*x w/ a man on film for money u cant tell me that thats not demeaning in itself, and i really dont know why its so appealing

Answer 15

It is a humiliation/degradation fix so they can feel superior  

Answer 16

Its so dirty raw and nasty thats the appeal.  Men would love it if they found it deameaning in fact they probably wouldn't know what to do with a woman who liked to be jizzed all over

Answer 17

it's bascally a  " Domination"  or " Power " type of mind set borderline disrespect as a ... "take that be~yotch" thing.

some women love it ... some like it.... some cant stand it. It depends on what type of Man they enjoy... a Confident Dom or a chastised mama's boy...

Answer 18

Well -- if a male is masturbating to p**n -- the money shot (whether as you described or in another form) is the point at which the watching male also ejaculates.

Money shots exist in all forms of p**n -- straight and g*y.

Probably, the particular form of money shot you describe is enjoyed by straight men because it gives them a sense of dominance and authority that they are rapidly losing in our present society.

I'm not sure that the part of the brain that is most aroused by p**n in a male cares about anything but s*x.  s*x is a MUCH greater drive for males than females -- despite all the efforts ongoing now to make that "not true."  You can't change nature, and an average males drive for s*x of all kinds dwarfs a sexually precocious woman's drive for same.  So I very much doubt that the male brain considers it demeaning or insulting or anything else -- although when confronted, the rest of his brain (the more intellectual part) will try to say something you can understand, the reality is (trust me on this) much more primal than he can explain, and probably more primal than you can (sorry) easily grasp.  That is just reality.

There is nothing wrong with your boyfriend, and I promise, he doesn't want to hurt you.  Women truly do not understand the level and complexity of male s*x drive.  I happen to be g*y, and so can view the whole situation with a much more dispassionate eye -- and I've only known two women, ever, who really got it (to be fair, the vast majority of my friends are males, mostly straight males -- and I'm male myself -- I really do get it.).

I wouldn't worry too much about it if I were you.

Peace,

Hermes