(for parents, have kids that still got to school) are you spoiling them too much?

Question

Hello! this question is more of a poll...

(before you read this, please take note that this question could offend in some way so please don't answer with angry answers if this offends you).

Do you think you are spoiling your kids? Lots of parents think they're not and lots think they're spoiling their children.

Do you care about their school results?

Do you let your children buy lots of brand clothes?

Are you going to let them carry on a big money making family business?

Do you know/care that if your child is behaving badly during school and outside of school?

Do you spoil them with expensive things that they don't need in everyday life? (eg. xbox360 or PS3)

Do you yell at your child's teacher if they get into trouble? (eg. your child was being rude to teacher and other classmates and was given a 5 minute clean up slips)

Answer 1

Hmmm

1. They may be somewhat spoiled but they know there is a limit

2. yes I care very much about there school results

3. I do not buy all named brand clothing only if it is on sale or clearance

4. I do not have a big money making family bis, ( wish i did thou :)

5. I always know how my kids are doing in school I talk with the teachers on a regular baisis

6. They Have a PS2 but they play outside more than anything

7. No when they are at school the teacher is in charge, I would only get involved if i felt that my child was being treated badly (ie abused, or if they asked me to,)

Answer 2

My kids are FAR from spoiled. I am very involved with them, at school. They just got tvs in their room(they are 11 and 12) which they are not allowed to watch during the school week, since it is summer they can at night. We have a "family" ps3

Name brand clothes would really depend on how inexpensive I can get them, but they are too young for that, they just aren't into them. Their grades are a big deal to me. They have yet to get into trouble at school so there is so need to yell at a teacher. I would never yell at a teacher anyway. I have had a few "talks" with some in the past but that was on other issues not my childrens behavior

Answer 3

Yes i think i have spoiled my idiot son(our biggest mistake) we now pay for his transportation to school, its costing us money. I dont care about school results, i know he is an imbecile who will amount to nothing in life. Dont worry i havent bought any gadgets of gizmos for this freak.

Answer 4

I normally listen to my children's side and the teachers side with an open mind when there is a problem at school.  I have been known to confront  the teacher (never in front of the kids) if  feel they have disrespected my kids in some way, I will also try to discuss with their teachers of better ways of dealing with conflict.  If I feel my kid's are wrong and have been rude- which is most of the time cause I know how they can be at home sometimes we try to come up with a solution and make the kid's know that we are working together to resolve any future conflict. As far as their clothes I can't afford brand name unless it's from Wall mart, so no to that one.  My 2 children 14 and 15 years old have 1 xbox and it's not the 360 and each have a PS2 I can't afford Wii or the other more elaborate games I do my best to keep a roof over their heads and their heads out of the clouds.  I go to all of the IEP meetings and staffing's throughout the school year and try to help with their curiculum in class.  If they get in trouble I meet with them and the teacher and we agree on what form of punishment is fair be it staying after school picking up trash or doing homework.  I try to be fair to everyone involved, teacher, principal, counselors and the kids. I feel I spoil them with love which is the only thing I have a lot of.  Hope this helps a little.

Answer 5

I know that my kids probably get more than they need, but I make sure that they appreciate what they get and what they have.

I care greatly about their school grades, behavior and attitudes.  My eldest actually tries to help explain harder concepts to the kids on their level.  

I do not buy my kids brand name clothes, but I do allow them to use their own money to buy them.  They only get money by doing extra chores around the house (above and beyond their daily chores for which they get no money).  

We have no family business, so that issue is moot.  

I do know and am very active with them at school.  I try to volunteer at least an hour a week in their classrooms so that I can communicate with the teacher weekly and I can see how they interact with the other students (are they respectful, polite, curtious).  I also am very communicative with my neighbors and they know that if my kids are being bad that they are to be sent home and they get grounded for bad behavior and then have to do extra "mommy" chores for no credit such as cleaning closets, junk drawers, pantry's, garage, etc...  

Again, with the games, they have to earn enough to purchase them on their own, either individually or by combining their money, so we do have a Wii and they each have a handheld.  

I have had one instance where one has gotten into trouble, and I spoke with the teacher about it and the principal and with my child and explained to him that all his actions have consequences, and he had to write letters of apology to the teachers and the principal for his actions.

Answer 6

Do I spoil?  No

Do I care about school results?  Yes

Lots of brand name clothes? No I am not made of money.

Carry on a family business? Only if they are good at it and they like it.

Bad behavior? Yes I do care about that.

Games systems are fun for parents also.(own an X-Box)

I would not yell at the teacher because my child deserved the punishment. I would talk to them though in a calm and polite manner.

Answer 7

My 14 year old daughter gets most everything she wants, within reason, but I do not consider her to be spoiled as she appreciates what she has and does not put up a fuss if we say no to something.

Her school results are very important to me.

She does not have a closet full of brand name clothing because I do not want her to define herself by the labels she wears. She has a few brand name sweat shirts and hoodies.

My husband would love her to take over our business when she gets older but she has no desire to do that.

The behavior of my child in and out of school is just as important as the way she behaves at home. She is respectful and well mannered and knows that she is to behave in such a way always.

She does not have an Xbox or PS3 because she has never asked for one. Not a big video game fan. She does have a DS which she rarely plays and her beloved Ipod, which she listens to everyday.

I would never yell at my child's teacher but I will certainly question a teacher if I feel that she was treated unfairly. This has only happened once...when the entire class was given a huge writing assignment (during the week before finals) because of the behavior of a couple of kids. My child has never been reprimanded for being disrespectful to a teacher or another student.