{guys only}what do i do about my husband soon to be?

Question

I'm getting married soon and my fiance acts like he don't care about the big day or anything i ask him over and over again do u want to do this he says yes but his actions show differently ..when i come home from work he always finds a reason to leave knowing i come home with a mind set to spend time with him and the baby so i ak him why he does that and he says your just trying to start an argument i don't know i love him allot he says he loves me but i still don't know

Answer 1

no sure what your aksing.  

clarify the question

Answer 2

Some guys don't care about the big day cause its not for us guys.. Its mostly for the women..  

Answer 3

If you don't think he loves you, wait until you're sure before you marry him.  Guys who are in love and want to get married actually WANT to spend time with their fiance.  Being married isn't going to make him more interested in you.  I couldn't get enough of my future bride before we got married!

Answer 4

do what other women do marry him for a couple of years then take every thing he has

Answer 5

This marriage is in trouble before it even begins. See a marriage counselor. He is shutting you out.

Answer 6

it doesn't seem that he wants to get married vary much.

Answer 7

actions speak louder than words!  I wouldn't marry him, he's already leaving and not caring how you feel.  If you have any doubts, and you DO, do not go through with this marriage!

Answer 8

If you're questioning if its right, it probably isn't.  I wouldnt do it.  Your man should adore you.

Answer 9

You have a kid together and now your going to get married, how old are you?  Maybe he feels the walls closing in on him!  Was the child a surprise?  How long had you been together before you got knocked up?

Are you spending a whole lot of dough on the wedding, and do you have it to spend?  Any of these questions could be making him question what the h*** have I done, and run!

Answer 10

Don't Marry him----yet at least. You need to get this straightened out before you can start any real commitment. be careful.

Answer 11

well i think he cares but doesnt know how to show it! although im not like that alot of guys r like that! he doesnt know how to express.

Answer 12

Don't marry him !i

Answer 13

Step 1 - Putting the marriage on hold as soon as possible.

Step 2 - Sit down with him and have a decent conversation. Try to make him feel at ease and keep voice volume to a minimum... especially if you start hearing things you did not want to hear.

Only communication can help here. And if he tells you that you are starting an argument, don't worry. If it needs to start with an argument, its better than leaving things under the carpet!

Answer 14

Girl, sounds like trouble has already started and your not even married yet. I would certainly question if getting married is even what he really wants!

Answer 15

MARRIAGE IS ALOT BIGGER DEAL FOR A WOMAN THAN A MAN.SO HIM ACTING LIKE HE DONT CARE MAY BE NORMAL, OR HE DOESNT WONT TO GET MARRIED.IF YOUR ASKING HIM OVER AND OVER AGAIN YOUR GETTING ON HIS NERVES TO THE POINT TO WHERE HE DOESNT EVEN WONT TO TALK ABOUT IT.IF HE LEAVES WHEN YOU COME HOME ITS OBVIOUS HE DONT WONT TO SPEND TIME WITH YOU,TRING TO START AN ARGUMENT IS A MANS WAY TO NOT ANSWER QUESTIONS,OR AVOID A CONVERSATION.MY OPINION IS HE DOESNT WONT TO GET MARRIED.HAS IT ENTERED YOUR MIND HE MAY BE CHEATING ON YOU.