...help on trying to find my birth parents...?

Question

im looking to find my birth parents ( i was adopted out of riverside county, and i have a closed adoption, i do have all of the adoption paper work) i know with a closed adoptions finding your parents can be difficult, i don't want to spend a ton of money, if at all on trying to find them. I really just want to find out my medical history, i have an 18 month old daughter, and i realize that i need to know what she is going to be up against, and myself as well....any help would be appreciated..

Answer 1

First - add your details to the registries here

http://www.isrr.net/

http://registry.adoption.com/

Check here for information on your state records here -

http://adopteerights.net/

(click on the page marked 'Searchers' down the left hand side)

Check here for search help - and links to search angels -

http://www.adoptioncrossroads.org/

And check here for any support - it's the best online forum for adoptees I've found -

http://www.adultadoptees.org/

All the very best with your search.

(and also - try out the info Theresa and Isabel A gave you)

Answer 2

That's a hard one.

But....I have seen where people put it on that town or Cities websites or in the Newspaper and all the info about around what time they were born and who they think they parents might be...because usally their is a family member who finds it and contacts the people the person is looking for.....

I wish you much luck

Answer 3

The easiest way is to look up where they are from and check the voter registration to see if they are registered voters this will give a current address. My grandfather is a private investigator... I am not sure if this is privelaged info. However you can also check the Department of Motor Vehicles. This will not be a hard case for a PI at all especially if they have remained in the same city... You can ask specific questions and for rates. www.davidmgrove.com

Answer 4

Go and get the book, Birthright: The Guide to Search and Reunion by Jean Strauss.

Do NOT use a confidential intermediary if you can help it.  CI's as they are called have been known to lie to adoptees and natural families in order to prevent reunion.  In fact, many confidential Intermediaries are former adoption agency workers who are trying to protect their investments.  They do not want those records open.

I found my natural mother intially on the regisrty at adoption.com.

http://registry.adoption.com/

Look up the month and year you were born and go from there.  Good luck.

Answer 5

I am going to do the same thing because of health issues in the family.  I am petitioning the court to open the records and have a social worker contact my birth parents.  This however will cost money.  I suggest you find a local adoptees group because they should have good ideas for what works in your area.  Good luck.

Answer 6

I found my sister's birth mother after a closed adoption.  Do you know where she grew up?  I used Classmates.com, switchboard.com, whitepages.com, etc..  I called people from her age range and asked about whether they know of a pregnant girl in their school who gave up a child.  I did end up finding a last name.  I called EVERY person I could find with that last name who had at one time lived in the area...found her birthmom's cousin who contacted her birthmom for us...  My sister has since met her birthmom, and they visit with each other quite often (Both my sister and her birth-mom wanted a relationship).  Good luck on your search.

Answer 7

Riverside County.... in California?

If it's CA, then check the page here for the laws:

http://adopteerights.net/nulliusfilius/?...

You can check out this page too:

http://www.geocities.com/californiaadopt...

Be sure to register with Soundex at:

http://www.isrr.net

And set up a search profile at:

http://registry.adoption.com

If it's not California, please let us know, and we can probably help more!

Answer 8

what state??