^ months ago I became a Widow. At 60 how do I go on.?

Question

I was married for 32 years. my partner was everything to me. How do I carry on.

Answer 1

I am sorry to know that.

you need to make new friends, get close to your family members. don't know if you have children or not, but if you have try to be in touch with them more than before.

60 is not old as it used to be before, so you can have partner who can be with you all the time.

if you are into chatting and need more friends, you may contact me.

Answer 2

you should find a hobby. you should go out and explore the world and start traveling

Answer 3

My grandmother is 63 and has been widowed too many times, so I think I know what not to suggest.  I know how difficult this must be for you.  I've lost so many people over the last several years.  It is hard to pick up and move on.  Do you belong to a church?  Maybe take a more active role there.  I wouldn't suggest fraternal orders, merely because they are mainly just alcoholic watering holes.  I'd just say to find things you enjoy.  Possibly even volunteer your time to help others.  Besides keeping yourself busy, you'd be making a difference to someone else.  Check into the local hospital auxillary.  I know that when my daughter was born and had to stay in the NICU since she was a preemie, the lovely auxillary ladies knitted her afghans and made a gorgeous quilt for her that we still have- and she still uses even though she's 2.  It's beautiful and so much more comforting than the standard hospital blankies.  Those ladies made a quilt and afghan for each and every child admitted to the NICU.  They also made larger afghans to make the rooms for pumping breastmilk much homier and comfortable.  They made it less sterile and more inviting during a time when I was scared to death.  Try something like that and make a difference in both your life and someone else's.

Answer 4

I'm sooo sorry... I lost my mom last year & we were very close... I can't imagine how hard it must be for you to lose your husband... But life DOES go on...

Go on because you love him and he'd want you to be ok...  Cry when you need to, but make a promise to yourself & him that you're going to go on and find ways to honor HIM through your life...  And when friends offer help, take it...

Answer 5

one day at a time

Answer 6

Known someone in the same situation as you are now.  Ar first few months her kids and grand kids always go to her house and she's using most of her time with them and not spending much time at her house.

Then after a year she seems to be alright she still talks about the husband of course but just remembering all the good things they have done together.  She move near by the house of her daughter and still happy because she is pretty occupied time wise with her family.

Answer 7

Through the support of your family, and the strength that you've obtained from being married to a wonderful man for 32years! I do not know you're beliefs, but it is ALWAYS good, to keep a prayer on your lips.  

Answer 8

Im still young and I dont know if my answers will help.  Ive never been married before but Im truly sorry about your loss.  I think for a person to move on is to do things that you love to do or do things that you've always wanted to do in your life.  Do something that you did when you were younger.  Example: travel go somewhere you've always wanted to go to.  If you had horses when you were younger go on a horse back riding trip with your friends or family.  You have to find something that has alot of meaning in your life to keep you happy.  If you are religious pray about it.

For someone to be married for 32 years you have got to be the strongest woman ever! You have to carry on and dont give up on life and love every moment of it.

Answer 9

I am so sorry.  I have been with my husband for 6 yrs.  I cannot imagine loosing him...

I think you should get therapy. I don't think anyone could get over this on their own.  You need support.  I think there are also support groups of other widows that would help too.  Professional grief counseling is where i would start.

I am so sorry.  God bless you! Take care!

Answer 10

i'm sorry to hear about your loss, but i'm sure everything will even out. try picking up new hobbies to distract yourself from the pain. make new friends and become closer to your old ones

Answer 11

I can relate to your pain.  I too was widowed, but at 51.  After 27 years. Hopefully you have children, friends and church.  It is difficult every day. The days will pass into weeks and then months.  Sad days, sadder days and really happy days.  Allow yourself to grieve, to be sad and to be happy.  Do not stay at home and vege.  Part of his family doesn't even call or come by anymore.  I have made a new life for myself and I live in the same home and have paid it off and all of the bills.  I work at home.  I can truly say I am happy now and have been for many years.  That was ten years ago.  My Mother died the same year 5 mos. after.  A very sad time, but then I feel their presence all around me when I allow myself that time.  Keep busy doing something, anything.  You will  never get over this, don't expect to, just keep the memories alive and well, but don't get stuck in the past.  My front porch has ten chairs all around,  most days they are always someone in them to visit, family friends and clients.

Answer 12

Please don't do what I've seen a few other women do and live out the rest of your life depressed and unfocused. You are young. If he was everything to you then you're lucky enough to know what it feels like to experience love and devotion. Now is the time for you to give back what he gave you. Search your soul for something that you've always wanted to do to help others and then go be a part of it. It will give you daily motivation to get up, get out and DO something. You'll meet other people and create new memories of your own. Honor what you had together by letting him look down upon you and see you happy, involved and making progress every day. Good luck and sorry for your loss :)

Answer 13

I am so sorry, and I am sorry your are feeling this way.

Just know that no matter that he/she is gone, he is still with you, watching over you. Go do things yall did together, things you enjoy. I am sure that person doesnt want to see you so down, he wants to see you happy,. And just know that he is always with you and in your heart.

Smile, everything will be just fine, I know it is hard,  tonight just lay in bed and just talk to him, he is listening.

Answer 14

Make some friends, meet another partner, what do

you want is the question to ask yourself.  Being

single is wonderful, you can do what you want.....

Your only 60, many people at that age travel and see

the world.  Look at your interests.  

Answer 15

If you are a praying woman, then do just that. To live alone is not the best thing. When you get old, 70s up, you will need a companion. I hope you have close friends or even small kids around to keep you going. Find new friends to chat with. I pray someone will come along and fill that gap in your heart. I will be your friend also. Take care of yourself and continue to be strong.

Blessed.

Answer 16

There are plenty of 20 year old dudes with strange s*x fetishes...

Answer 17

I'm just 2 years younger than you & have been married for more than 35 years. I can't even begin to imagine how difficult this must be for you.You just need to get through one day at a time. Find old friends the two of you shared to talk about old times when you need to. Give yourself time to grieve - 32 years is a long time. This will not be easy or quick. You will get through this. Just remember that he would want you to be happy. Remember the good times.

When you think you're ready, get out somewhere where you can make new friends - male & female. Just enjoy the company of others & find new activities to enjoy with them. Maybe someday down the road there will be another love for you, but you can't worry about that now.  Take care!

Answer 18

60 is the new 40; you are young hon.......get busy....be active...make a list of things you want to do and start doing them......your partner is watching and praying for you to move forward.....as human beings, grief is the price we pay for love and it is well worth it; you will be fine.....volunteer, take up new hobbies....

Answer 19

I am sorry to hear of your loss.  That is wonderful that you had 32 years together.  Start slow.  Start a journal and write your feelings down.  Check with local hospitals in your area because many have grief support groups for people who recently lost a spouse.  If you are not working, try getting involved with a church or even a part-time job so you can make some new friends.  Mental Heath Clinics also have lists of grief support meetings.  I attended some when I lost my parents.  Start a scrap book, or a family photo album.  Visit with relatives you have not seen in a while.  It's okay to let people know you are hurting.  Take it one day at a time.  

Answer 20

This is really difficult, but you need to think about what your partner would have wanted for your life... how can you stand up and be a real living memory of your partner, a testament to how happy you were together? Not by being unhappy. Take every day as it comes, remember the good times, but look to your future too.

Answer 21

Just recall the GOOD TIMES, AS WELL AS THE BAD, AND DON'T PUT THEM ON A PEDESTAL OUT OF SEEMING GUILT'S FOR WHATEVER YOU FEEL YOU MAY HAVE DONE TO HIM, OR MAY NOT HAVE DONE FOR HIM....

NO ONE WAS OR IS PERFECT....

TAKE A GOOD LOOK AT YOURSELF,

LOOK FOR, AND FIND, THE GOODNESS'S IN YOURSELF.

FIND YOUR ASSETS,

FIND WHAT YOU DO WELL,

FIND WHAT YOU DID WELL,

CONSTANTLY THANK YOURSELF DAILY FOR WHO YOU ARE AND WHAT YOU HAVE DONE FOR THIS PLANET.

RECALL THE DREAMS THAT YOU HAD...BEFORE YOU MET HIM....AND TAKE COURSES AND TRAINING TO BE ABLE TO DO THOSE DREAMS....BEFORE YOU DIE....

Everyone came to this planet with a job in mind....do not die and have that job unfinished...

You area soul, that means you are all powerful, all knowing, all capable, by yourself....

If you do not think so, you just bought into the FALSE DATA that everyone threw at you to keep you from getting your soul's job done.

If he is TRULY your soul mate, he is just going ahead to make it ready for you at the other place where you will incarnate again...

But sometimes mates Have To Get Out Of The Way so we can get our heads on straight to be able to focus, to then GET OUR SOUL JOB DONE....

Happily...look towards your original goals that you came to do...

in other words, what did you want to do, be, or have, or create when you were 2 1/2 and others made you wrong for...what did you continually play acting as if you were that, or were creating that...

the soul still remembers at 2 1/2....

To keep from being lonely Volunteer in areas that people need help in.

Tutor kids with the REALLY GOOD ENGLISH, MATH, AND CHEMISTRY, BECAUSE THEY DON'T TEACH THE GOOD FOUNDATIONS ANY MORE IN PUBLIC SCHOOLS.

DON'T DIE AND TAKE THAT KNOWLEDGE WITH YOU.  THIS PLANET NEEDS YOUR HELP....