my parents don't understand

Answer 1

I find many parents don't listen to their kids mostly because they don't care to/don't care in general. I think because they're older they take everything in terms of their kids from an egotistical standpoint. They're not open to hearing/understanding anything about their kids. It's just all my way/the highway. Yet some of them wonder why their kids don't communicate with them much/at all. Dare I say it, but they seriously act a lot more babyish than their kids do, they really do. Some kids also have to cope with dealing w/ 1 parent which in many ways  is worse. The worst thing dads do/can do is leave. Most moms if they are  stuck w/ the kid, they lose practically all trace of reality mentally.  Some hook up w/ bad guys whom they might marry even if they know person  is bad for/to them & their kids because they're just so desperately  yearning for a relationship & afraid of being alone & look the  other way when these guys do something & basically tell their kids to  go f**k themselves. Plus moms will sometimes gossip & lie about their kids to other ppl  making it seem as though the child is such a natural burden to them &  the moms are basically such innocent little angels who can never do no  wrong & make absolutely no mistakes of any kind. Dads in most cases  if you're lucky may care, but many are just to hardheaded to listen. Many  of them have a hardcore military attitude to them so to speak. Unlike  moms, they for the most part have a more realistic p.o.v of things. The reality is parents on both sides need serious help at times &  need to grow up, but moms need to grow up the most & need the most  help a lot of the time. & as much as I hate to say this, but we as  well as others in our circle & other fam & friends need to make  them grow up & help them to. They're not perfect/not always right.  When we are we need to stand to them & let them know look I hear we  love & respect you, but sometimes we know best to & you need to  grow up. It's not disrespecting/hating them. We just wanna let them know it's not always all about them/how they  views/ want they want & we know some stuff to you know. Also, there  is a consistent lack of communication w/ parents/kids in large part  because most of the parents are like I'll give you anything you want  just don't bother be alright/just leave me the heck alone & later on  they deny they even did/do these things, hence why I say we need to  stand up to them. It's not to hurt them, but help them the same way they  claim to help us. A lot of parents aren't very serious when it comes to their kids or just  don't take their kids very seriously as they love everyone to think  they do.