"Nice guys finish last"?

Question

I've been reading up on nice guys, and wonder if there's really a hint of truth in the "nice guys finish last" theory.

Speaking for myself, I'm generally a very nice guy; I take the initiative to do nice things for other people like opening the door for them or listening when they need advice. I don't think I've turned down anyone in need of help. Heck, I've been described as a nice time quite a few times already (especially from some of my girl friends). Is this ruining my chances of finding that someone (i.e. people just taking advantage of my niceness)? What's the deal with nice guys and relationships anyways?

Btw, I try not to be a pushover (I make my own choices and whatnot), but how nice is too nice?

Answer 1

You are a keeper.  Soundes like you are on the right track.   You will always be able to sleep soundly.  And make the right person a great husband.  Then you could teach the kids the right things to do to change the world.

Answer 2

from what you said, your personality is just fine.

sensitivity, though, you need to be snesitive. listen to her and not judge her, stuff like that. but yo ucan't be a softy, like, cry at everything. obviously if someone dies or you get your arm chopped off or something, we expect you to and it's good that you show that.

i love nice guys

(it's good that you're not a pushover. very good)

Answer 3

I love nice guys, I have to say it's personal preference. Because whenever I talk to my friends about a "nice guy" they always moan and groan and say the want a guy rough around the edges. Don't try to be mean just to get a girl, be nice and find one thats likes you for who you are.

GOod luck.

Answer 4

even tho many people say that the  "nice guys finish last" they only mean in your highschool days cause girls like the "bad boy" then. but if you stay a nice guy....you may finish last but you will have the best girl ever. just cause you finish last, doesnt mean you dont finish with someone who will drag you down. My uncle waited till he was 46 and now hes married to the girl of his dreams, and shes the best woman for him so take it from me. Nice guys are the wons who finish with the best.

Answer 5

omg im sorry but im so sick of guys saying this c**p! its totally not true!

a week ago i met two guys in one night. one was incredibly good looking but kind of a sleazeball and the other one was cute and nice....now i have the biggest crush on the nice one....i even went to a football game with him last night....

so to answer your question, when it comes to the right girl, nice guys wont finish last!:)

Answer 6

Here is the thing about being nice:  "if it makes the world a better place, then DUH, the world is a better place."  Just don't make a sacrifice so someone else can keep s******g up.

Here is another thought on the lines of "why should I be nice?" -- Everybody has a hidden or deeply held desire for something, for some it may be excitement, for others it may be security.  If you learn what that is, and give it generously to them and make sure they realize that YOU are the source, they will stick with you forever.

Answer 7

NICE GUYS FINISH LAST BUT FIRST IN GETTING LAID!!!!

Answer 8

The problem with "nice" guys is that the usually end up being the door mats to the world.

Very few actually have a spine to speak of.

Answer 9

It sounds like you've got a nice balance going.  Nice guys don't finish last, it's non-assertive guys who finish last.  It's good to be nice but still stand up for yourself and don't try too hard to please them.  Keep them guessing a little bit!

Answer 10

Nice guys don't finish last but spineless yes men do

I'm guessing you are a yes man

Answer 11

Yes, the "nice guy" is pretty much a turn off to women.

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