I have seen numerous times on this board where people have asked about step-parent adoption and been told "If the step parent loves the child, cares for the child, and the child loves the step-parent in return, why is there any need to adopt?"
As someone with experience in this, let me answer:
If I had died before my husband legally adopted my oldest daughter, he would have had no legal rights to her. She would have wound up thrown into the system- separated from her sister- and he would have had to fight to get her back. That's why.
Her biological father wanted no part of being in her life. My husband is the daddy she's had since she was only a few months old.
Why WOULDN'T he adopt her?
I understand that there are problems with adoption laws in our country and that some kids who are adopted wind up feeling betrayed. I get that.
But why can't people on the other side look at the full picture, too? Not ALL adoption is terrible!
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