"s*x with two guys. She doesn't want to because it might change her??"?

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This is a question asked by a dude a few months ago. What are you thoughts on what's suggested and the women's answers to the question?

... " it might change her" ? If you're familiar with some of a my questions, I am very under the impression that there are many things and many instances where women 'change'. How convenient is that-- changing due to a one time event? Is she really 'changing' or is she just being opened to a new line of male expectations - and does that accomplish the same effect either way?

Is this woman much different than others, or most? Can all women 'change' in this way? So suddenly and naturally? If so, are they really changing at all? Could such an apparent abrupt deviation in psyche representing such a small portion of your total life be considered a 'change'. Or is this simply a trait left unexplored in her until now?

Answer 1

If you do NOT change during an important event, there is something very, very wrong with you.  Adults are *supposed* to change through life events, that is normal. If you don;t do that, if you're totally dogmatic and inflexible, and if you're implying all men are, then you're are not particularly useful as a gender - even pidgeons have more intelligence than that and are more able to adapt to new information! Fortunately for all men, I think you're wrong.

People and their behavoir does change as a result of life experiences. We call this "learning".

Answer 2

Two things:

The big hint is right at the beginning of the second sentence: SHE DOESN'T WANT TO. That's pretty much all you need to know.

Second, if you are trying to make a case that people can't be changed by a 'one time' event, you must be incredibly shallow, incredibly stupid, or just incredibly immature.

Come to think of it, given your fixation with getting your end away, I suspect a sticky-fingered 13 year old with self esteen issues, so I'm going for a combo of all three.

Cheers :-)

Answer 3

I tried it and about all that happened is I wore them both out!  It didn't change me at all! Just disappointed me! Sad but too typical!

Answer 4

Sounds like an excuse not to do it.

     But I disagree with the fact that a person could change completly over one life event(unless it was a big one..really big). People that do change over the small things in life are often unstable and not worth it.

Answer 5

I think it's a very bizarre way of thinking.

Answer 6

whatever floats ur boat. u want s*x with two guys its up to you. just be safe and use condoms.

Answer 7

if you want my honest opinion, I had a MMF threesome once when I was younger and naive.

I HATED IT AND NEVER WANT DO IT AGAIN!

The best s*x I had was with my first serious boyfriend who I loved, and nothing can top that.

Answer 8

It sounds like an excuse to me. I would think that she is uncomfortable with the idea, but doesn't know how to explain why in a way that will make sense, so she's offering some kind of generic excuse in the hopes that her boyfriend will quit asking.

OR, maybe she has found that she likes the idea a little too much, and doesn't want to tempt herself. That could be the case, too. Although I suppose it wouldn't really "change" her; it would be more like giving vodka to an alcoholic.

It's hard to say without knowing her personally.

Answer 9

It's true, women are extremely pliable and malleable.  Especially before they hit the age of 30 or so.

The trend I've seen is an obsession with a non existent pattern.

Examples:

1.  Her boyfriend cheats on her.  Now all men are cheaters to her.

2.  Her dad/boyfriend/male beats her physically, now all men supposedly do this.

3.  Her boyfriend dies in a car accident.  Now she'll be dead set in her belief that all of her boyfriends will be short lived.

4.  Her boyfriend is "mean" to her at some point, she may even deserve it, but now she believe that all men are mean by nature.

In each case, it's an isolated incident that is now projected upon the rest of the world in her mind.

So, odds are, it would change her in a few ways.  Her perception of male expectations is probably one of them.

Answer 10

The guy who asked the original question is a latent homosexual.

If he really wanted a threesome he would have asked his girlfriend to do a MFF threesome, not a MMF one.