"The Birds and the Bee's"...at what age do you have THE TALK?

Question

My 9 year old daughter is asking alot of questions. At what age do you have "the talk" and how much detail do you tell them? I bought a book "my body and its changes". Its pretty good. Should we read the book together, let her read it then ask questions or just use it as a guide for our talk. Any advise is welcome, I'm really stressing over this.

Answer 1

If she's old enough to ask, she's old enough to know.

The earlier the better in our society!

Answer 2

now is a good time.  review the book with her - show her some diagrams at the library, and maybe even take her with you to the gyn so she can ask some questions and see what womanhood is all about.

whenever your child asks, it's time.

good luck.

Answer 3

tell her if she wants to now

Answer 4

I received the Talk in school when I was 10.  Now is the best time since she is asking.  It is better hearing it from you, then to receive false information from others.      

Answer 5

When she asks the questions just answer them as honestly and factually as you can. Use the book to illustrate what you are talking about. Children are experts on adults and can usually tell when you are telling the truth.

It is much better that she learns the facts from you rather than getting a distorted view from some of her friends. She will respect you for your honesty and the matter of fact way you deal with the subject. s*x doesn't frighten or embarrass children the way it frightens and embarrasses some adults. Just make sure you emphasise the point that s*x is a normal part of a healthy and loving relationship between mature grown up men and women and not something dirty or sinful that can only be talked about in whispers.

Answer 6

yes start taking to her now, you don't want her to find out on her own, so the sooner the better, I know its awkward but you'll find the strength

Answer 7

First of all I think it's great that you are spending the time with your daughter and explaining everything to her instead of hearing it from friends. Secondly to your daughter, you must be a very mature 9 year old by asking. I wouldn't stress over it you are being a terrific and responsible parent. Kudos to you both!!

Answer 8

I think the important thing is to not have "the talk", but have many talks. Even little children should know about their bodies and know the right names for their body parts. At nine, a girl should know about periods because she could get it in a few years or even soon. talk to her about relationships and the importance of caring about someone before psychical intimacy. Don't just lecturer er or tell her what she isn't aloud to do. instead, ask her questions like, "What do you think it will be like to have a boyfirend?"

Answer 9

I was around the age of 10 when my mom and I had "the talk" we were in the grocery store and I saw Condoms and wanted to know what they were. I kept bugging mom cause she kept saying its nothing and we went home and had the talk. she used and stick and a roll of tape to explain things to me. I would just read the book with her after ever chapter ask her if she has questions and make sure she knows its only for when you are old enough and love someone a lot. Now a days kids are starting to have babies. Also if she feels uncomfortable about anything ask her if she wants you to stop. Then tell her that you are there for her with anything. I'm sure she already knows this but its good to let them know because of the change.