"being just friends" with a girl ....Is this possible ? Is there such a thing?

Question

I finally told this girl whom I was dating, that I wasn't interested in being a couple or being her boyfriend right now ...I told her that I didn't want to pursue our relationship in that direction anymore, at least not right now.

she seemed cool and seemed to agree to all what i had to say and did come sound disappointed. Is she faking it ? all of this conversation was over the phone.

while On our first date last week we had agreed that we would meet this weekend too.

But now that we are not going to be a couple anymore, I dont see the point in meeting her anymore. But she wants us to meet.

Can i still meet her this weekend on hopes that I might get some action ?

I'm facing the age-old problem of the p***s taking over sanity and goodjudgmentt.

How do i deal with this ? should I go ahead and meet her this weekend ? I dont want to be a BF nor give her the idea that i intend to be one either? how can i be physical with her and yet not have to carry the guilt of not being her BF ?

Answer 1

Go this weekend and talk with her. She might want to talk things over, ask why you don't want to date her, and all that stuff. If she does, then answer her as honestly as you can, and try to be kind but firm. Some girls try to guilt you back into dating them, so be sure to keep your priorities straight.

After that, don't go on any dates with her, unless you're both sure that you want to start a relationship again. If you two are going to hang out, make sure that it's a group thing with a bunch of friends.  

Answer 2

yes you can - you have made ur intentions clear and if she still wants to meet up and you both decide to get into "action" then you have done nothing wrong morally.

she might be hoping to try to change ur mind but it sounds as tho you have pretty much made your mind up on the issue so if you think you might get lucky with that sort of chick then go for it.... otherwise dont waste your time going if she is not that way inclined otherwise it will just be a waste of time.

talk to her and give hints without being too direct that your only after a good time from here on in and just see her reaction. if she seems cool with it then meet up with her.

Answer 3

1st rule, if you stay or become physical she will become obsessed with you, thinking she can and will change your mind. If you continue to meet with her, your contradicting yourself, you might as well nip this problem in the bud and stick to your guns.