"friends with benefits" ...?

Question

ok so i've liked this guy for a little while, he's so sweet and everything but idk now it seems like all he wants from me is s*x, he asked me to be benefit friends with him.. haha i said no but he still kind of tries it on with me. i still like him even though he's kind of an *** sometimes.. i mean i don't want to be benefit friends with him 'cus it could either ruin our relationship but at the same time it could develope into a proper bf&gf relationship - it can go either way so i dont wanna take the chance. sooo idk what my question is really. um what would you do in this situation? i dont want him to like go off me if i tell him to back off or something, you know?

Answer 1

The expression, 'You pays your money and takes your chances', does seems to me admirably appropriate to this.

It could go either way.  So you have to make your own choice about it and what you both want and, do NOT want.

Good luck.

Sash.

Answer 2

Always, always, always if a guy wants to just f*** you, that's all it'll ever be. I personally think sleeping around casually with associates or friends is disgusting because that's something too personal and weird. If he's really your friend, he would never ask that. There are too many females who are stupid enough to fall for this and thank goodness you haven't fallen in his trap... yet. Do what's best for you and stand up for yourself.

Answer 3

OF COURSE HE'S TOTALLY SWEET!

He's trying to get into your panties!

When a guy asks you to be "friends with benefits" that is his way of telling you clearly, that he is NOT interested in you as a girl-friend, steady, or otherwise.

He just wants to use your body.

He's playing you, so give him the same in return.

Weather you give your body to this guy or not, he's the type that will leave you hanging either way.

Sorry, but he's only interested in one thing.

You're giving him a good chase, and he's confident that he'll conquer you sooner or later.  Does posting this questions mean you are weakening?

Hope not.  It's a going nowhere relationship.

Don't be surprised when he gets tired of playing you, and moves to the next conquest.

^j^

Answer 4

Thats the biggest problem of all when you fall for someone who only wants to get in your pants. Coming from experience, well, i never realised it was all for s*x. The whole calling me everyday, and being sweet and honest, and caring for me. He wants only wants one thing. You know the answer to that. And the thing is, your playing hard to get which makes him want you more. But the sad thing is, what he wants is your body, not your heart. The guy is such a d**k to even ask you to be "friends with benefit".

Honestly, coming from my personal experience you will either get hurt or be with him. But i doubt the whole being with him, cause you're always gonna get hurt along the way.

Never let LOVE interfere of meaningless s*x, Cause he wants s*x and you want affection and passion and that does not mix.

Never let LOVE inetere of good friendship, you will lose him as a friend. And i don't think that is something you both want. I think the whole situation of Friends with Benefit is worse than being in a relationship and breaking up. Because in the first place what the h**l are you doing sleeping around with this guy. Do not let him own your p***y. He does not own you, and if you do get into this he will act like he has somehow took control in your life. And he could take advantage of how you feel for him.

Tell him straight forward that your not a hoe, or something he can get s*x for free. And if you do sleep with him, charge him. Men are asses, do not make yourself look cheap and desperate honey. It's not a pretty sight on a girl.

You want love and affections and if he does not want that with you then he can go have s*x with someone else, cause really he should go look some where else, plenty of girls to throw themselves at him. And you, you just can't do that cause you're falling for him and you will get hurt along the way. You better promise you better not sleep with him, cause it's gonna be damnnn depressful when you do. I've been there done that.

Hope that really makes you change your mind and forget him.

OK LOVE

xoxo

aka

Answer 5

Well... if he keeps trying to have s*x with you after you tell him you don't want that kind of thing with him, then he isn't that much of a person, so talk to him and see the reaction. If he keeps trying just don't talk to him anymore.  

Answer 6

DONT GIVE HIM ANY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Until at least 6 months- all the while let him get to know you better so that he cares about your feelings

Answer 7

This is what I wish I knew 10 yrs ago.............here it is>.......... you need to still be yourself around him, friendly and fun etc BUT do not get into a situation where he can put it on you.  So no being alone in your or his room.  Invite him places with your friends or his but when you are alone keep it really light.  Flirt if you usually do that - but no s*x.  Do not even give him the opportunity to get you to say no. If he brings it up quickly change the subject and keep the mood 'nice'.  Don't tell him you want more than s*x.  Just keep seeing him - but no opportunity for s*x or anything like that.  

I wish I knew this ages ago.......  a guy I liked used me for s*x - he was already with someone and had a child.  I wish I knew better then. Now I am married to a great guy - but I still want the other a&*( to suffer!

Answer 8

Sorry, but if you have to ask......you are in serious trouble. He is just looking for s*x nothing more and he'll never ask you to be his girl friend and the reason is obvious.