"sexually active" 3rd graders?

Question

my son is in 3rd grade and A LOT of his classmates are either boy crazy or girl crazy. it's gross. when i was 9 i still hated boys and wanted to beat them up! not kiss them and sit on their laps and call them at home! his teacher has spoken to the parents of these kids and moms and dads think it's cute. guess it won't be so cute when they are grandparents at age 40! anybody else have this prob?

Answer 1

Many little kids have "boyfriends" or "Girlfriends" but you don't have to worry about them making out on the playground or anything. They will just say that becaues they have friends or they want attention. You won't have to worry until they get into about 5th or 6th grade.

Answer 2

I mean... honestly...3rd graders... I don't t hink that it's something serious that they are french kissing and feeling on body parts..or anything. They are probably just mocking what they see at home or on TV. I mean...... they pretend.

Now once you have solid proof that they are "sexually active" then you can  have a serious problem with it.

Answer 3

OMG...do i feel bad for you! I would hate that but is like that at my school to except it is 4th and 5th and 6th graders.

Answer 4

it canbe normal but I would still watch out some kids that age have way more sexula knowlage then they need

most of its ust cute but when I was nine I was playing at a freinds house and he was a boy I am a girl and my parents didnt think anything of it becuse we where so young but he ended up rapeing me  he was 11 and i was nine and he braged about haveing had s*x in school and kids actuly thought it was cool

Answer 5

They should not be sitting on laps, kissing or calling the opposite s*x at home for anything other than homework. I think it is unnecessary. The can "play" other games. They don't need to be encouraged.

Answer 6

When I was young we had bf/gf and would talk to them on the phone or play with them after school, but now days it's getting way out of hand. Probably because most of what our kids watch on T.V. then they go to school and talk about it with our kids. Another big part of it is the generation that they are growing up in. I mean look at all the abuse that we see going on now. (physical, sexual, drug)And it's getting worse. Something needs to be done in all aspects. Especially with the people and the government.

Answer 7

My step-daughter came home the other day and said that one of the little girls in her 4th grade class is telling all the other little girls that she loves them and asking them if they want to have s*x. I was floored and I just hope that we have instilled values in our children that will superseed anything that society throws at them. I mean really can we expect anything less we have shows on basic cable in prime time that talk about s*x as if it's like having cookies and milk like it's no big deal at all. and lets not even get into video games my son borrowed one from a friend and then I asked him what he was doing when I realized in the game he was banging a hooker and was about to kill her and steal her money I thought I was going to have a heart attack. Well I wish you all the luck hopefully our children's children will do a better job than our generation did.

Answer 8

My middle two just recently began dating (going on 11 and going on 12) and their ideas of having gfs consist of hanging out, playing games, and eating. When asked if they even held hands yet, I get a big," EWWWWWWW.....Mom, that's gross." Yes, I think this level of dating is cute but they certainly are not kissing, sitting on laps or even hugging. Their idea of dating is having a crush on a friend. I don't know where you live but those parents who allow that type of nonsense have issues.

Answer 9

my first girlfriend was in the 3rd grade.  that was about a million years ago.  it wasn't more than hand holding, and maybe a peck of a kiss.  of course, now i'm kind of a sexual deviant.  ya, in retrospect, something should be done.

Answer 10

my daughter is 11 and in 6th grade..she has a "boyfriend" .  all that consists of is talking on the phone and IMing on yahoo. As a parent, i refuse to let it get any farther than that.  No kissing...no "dates" nothing else.  These parents really need to teach their children morales.

Answer 11

Well, I think it's okay to like someone in 3rd grade, as just a little crush. But kiss them and go out with them? It's too much. And it's really bad because they're 8 and 9 year olds, not 17 year olds. But another thing that annoys me are those 'marriages'. Parents think it's totally adorable, but it's actually really bad. Why can't they just be kids instead of feeling they have to attach themselves to a boy or girl?

Answer 12

3rd graders are not anywhere near ready to have any type of relationship other then friends. how do they even know what boyfriends and girlfriends are other then what they see on t.v.? (which is not the best example) Thinking it's cute is going to get people nowhere fast... maybe thats why kids these days get pregnant at 14-15yrs old. if children are thinking about this stuff at that young age then it's time to talk about real life stuff- like touching - kissing etc. Good luck

Answer 13

Its disturbing how the world is going!!

kids so young know everything about s*x!

these days s*x sells.. its only going to get worse!

Answer 14

this is definitely not the case in my daughter's third grade.  sounds like some kids need to be watching some seriously different tv shows....

Answer 15

Look at what the kids are exposed to hon?s*x s*x s*x s*x s*x s*x s*x!

Look at how the cartoon characters dress talk and behave then dont even bring up sit coms, movies tec.

They are polluted with  nothing but s*x from all forms of media and the kids dress like what they see on TV and what is supposed to be cool, then there is the hormones in their food etc.Theyre exposed to too much too soon, not just from TV but also from teens whom they look up to and want to imtate.

Answer 16

I had "boyfriends" in 4th grade, ended up going to an Ivy League college and am now happily marrien with 2 children...dont freak out, kids do this - sounds like you're making alot our of nothing. the more attention you draw to something the more kids will act out

Answer 17

I had a gf in kindergarten and grade 1! But it started really for me in year 4.

Answer 18

My son is in 3rd grade and none of the kids do anything like that...

In second grade my son hit a girl and the parents wanted to file "sexual harassment charges" against my son...but that is as far as the sexual activity has gone for his class...but it is a small school with only one class for each grade...maybe stuff like that happens in larger cities!  That is crazy they are like 9 in 3rd grade...I am a little worried now!

Answer 19

9 year olds also play doctor.

Are you ready to get upset about that?  Or talk to your kids about what is OK and what is abuse?

I don't think the play 'marriges' that other adults seem to love so much are cute.  I think thats horrible.  But kids get curious.  So, you'd better be ready to explain a few things.