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My MIL is driving me nuts! She undermines my every turn and I can't take it anymore. If I ask her not to let my son sleep past 4 as he won't go to bed at the right time guess what? If I tell her my daughter needs 4 ozs of milk before her solids guess which she gives her first? It's like she looks at me and says 'look what I did when you weren't here....oooppppsss (giggle)'

She a wonderful Grandma and all that but she's the worst MIL ever!

Help me please

Answer 1

i hear ya hun i have the same problem only it&#039;s my mother not my MIL try your best hun to get through it the best you can i know it&#039;s hard but you will get through it  

Answer 2

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Answer 3

ohhhhhhhhh youre preachin to the choir!! mines just as terrible, i literally just asked a question about it too! so ive got no advice but to just tell you good luck

Answer 4

It really sounds like you need to have a talk with her.  Let your husband know that you plan on confronting her about this behavior and need his support in the matter.  Tell your MIL that you NEED her to be supportive and to follow the rules that you are setting for your child.  This is YOUR baby, not hers.  Tell her that you need her to back off.  She is not respecting you right now and in order to be effective, you need the support, not her undermining behaviors.  Depending on her personality, she may either get her feelings hurt, or she may just get mad.  If she does either, understand that it&#039;s her problem, not yours.  She may totally understand once you state your position.  If you have the support of your husband, she should come around rather quickly.  I have allowed my MIL&#039;s to make their own rules in their houses with regards to bedtimes and the like.   It&#039;s my way of stepping back and allowing my in-laws to &#039;spoil&#039; them like they really want to, without going over the line.  My children know that when they are home, my rules run the house.

Answer 5

How can we help? Only you can do it yourself. Id put your foot down, no offense but if i dont like something that other people do with MY children then I fix the problem, whatever that be, I dont care what people think i will say my words because they are MY children. They raised theirs now its my turn to raise mine. dont let people push you around you have to stand up for what you think is right. best of luck