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Question

I’m always complaining to my bf about how cold it is at my job when my boss is there and how he turns down the thermostat to almost 30 degrees and for a person who was born and raise in the sunshine state FL (Miami) that’s like Alaska cold.

So he surprised me about a week ago with a sweater. And I thought it was very sweet, and thoughtful, but its only one problem it’s hideous, it’s like black with a huge orange on the front with green and orange stripes on the back. It’s like those stupid ugly Christmas sweaters that you see people wear at the office Christmas party except its fruit. But because I love him and it’s the thought that counts I thanked him and lied about how much I loved it.

So today he came over to my place and found the sweater he gave me on the floor of my closet with the tags still on it. And first he asked me why I wasn’t wearing the sweater and I lied and told him how much I loved it and how I was planning on wearing it on Friday. Then he tried to make me wear it out to the movies, and I kept telling him nicely how I would weather save it for work(so I could just take the tags off and hang up in my closet and say I wore it). And then he caught on to the fact that i didn’t like the sweater. And he got so upset, and he seemed genuinely hurt.

So I got naked and put on the sweater he brought me. and straddled him and told him how sorry I was that I didn’t know that the sweater meant that much to him. and it was working at first cause I FELT IT

But all of sudden he pushed me away and told me that s*x is not going to fix it and he left. i really think that he’s being I big baby about it.

Your thoughts, what should I do to fix it, or should I even try to fix it?

Answer 1

I think you did him wrong

Answer 2

Well,first off,the biggest problem is,you lied to him.Never lie to someone you love,most people would rather hear the truth and be hurt for a little while,then to be told the lie,then find out about it.All you did was add insult to injury.Next time just be honest with the man,and maybe then you two can go and exchange it for something you really like,sooner or later he will catch on to what you like...and by the way..s*x is not the answer to everything,and it certainly is not a &quot;I&#039;m sorry&quot;!!

Answer 3

how old are you guys like 15?

Pretty sad if you don&#039;t like the sweater and can&#039;t be honest

And stop trying to solve problems with s*x, that gets old and boring

Answer 4

Why did you ask this again?  See answers from the last time.

Answer 5

Try to talk to him and be honest.

Answer 6

Just wear the sweater and or take it to work and leave it there so you can tell him you wear it in the office when it is super cold. bring it home every now and then for a wash!

Answer 7

buy him a hideous sweater, and you both wear your sweaters out.

Relationships are about give and take.

Answer 8

yeah ,WTF wrong with you ? you hurt his feelings and thinks s*x will make it all better . how would you feel if you were in his shoe . apologize nicely and let him recover from it. remember a gift is a agift . it is the thought that is behind it that matters  

Answer 9

your an awesome girlfriend

s***w him he&#039;s a *****

just tell him the truth  

Answer 10

If he is gonna get so upset over a sweater i dread to think when it&#039;s over something important!

Answer 11

Assuming it is a button up sweater why did you not take it to work to wear as a &quot;jacket.&quot;  I had a job that I froze at and I picked up a cheap button up sweater to leave at my work place.  I wore it only when I got cold and it stayed on the back of my chair the remainder of the time.  Had you done that he would have never known if you were wearing it or not.  

You should sit down and talk to him.  Express how much you appreciated the thought and you do not like it but you did not want to hurt his feelings.  Ask him has he ever spared your feelings and not told you the truth.  You should express your feelings about him not buying you shoes or clothing.  My boyfriend would never try to buy me shoes or clothes.  Instead he gives me the money to buy my own with.  Works great!

Answer 12

I know your don&#039;t wanna do this but your going to have to wear the ugly thing out in public for your man.

Answer 13

1) You lied. Should have been truthful.

#2) You downplayed how important the sweater was to him by trying to give him s*x and sarcastically putting on the sweater.

#3) He wasn&#039;t the one acting like a baby. you were the one acting like a kid.

Answer 14

You hurt his feelings plain and simple. You should have just worn the stupid sweater to the movies. It would have made him happy. From now on, wear the sweater all the time and deal with it. Thats the only way he&#039;ll think you are sincere in liking it.