so me and my fiancé have altogether 4 kids.. i have two girls a son with him and he has a son from a previous relationship. im a stay at home mom so i deal with the 24/7 he works third shift so he works, and sleep mostly during the week and the weekend hes usually sleeping or on the computer until recently he started hanging out with his "friend" whom i never was introduced to, to "work on cars" last weekend he was out with him most of the day until 1:30 in the morning we fought becuz he didn't discuss anything with me and was being rude on the phone and hung up and "didn't want to hear what i had to say" and was saying hurtful things like "maybe i want to have an outside life" "i want to do something without you and the kids for once" "i work 50 hours a week" okay... well i was still upset about the issue, but yesterday he tells me that hes going to "work on cars" again and that his friend was picking him up at 7pm well i didn't bother him didn't call,.. let him have his "fun" while i stayed home with all of the kids (like always) 4 in the morning rolls around and i call him and he claims he is at a diner i asked him when he was coming home and he didn't say anything about it we had an arguement and he hung up on me then ignored my phone calls i tried calling becuz of certain issues and the fact that our newborn was out of diapers and formula and he didnt leave any money when he knew this cuz i told him yesterday.. lunch time today i tried calling his friends the one was really rude and hung up on me and the other informed me where he was i kept calling becuz it was so messed up that i wasn't told anything and was wondering why he still wasn't home... he FINALLY answers his phone 4pm today and of course it was a huge fight and to make it short im wrong for feeling the way that i do, and i should've of known that if he was leaving at 7pm that he wasn't coming home last night he said its "only common sense" which NOTHING WAS SAID about him staying the night into the day at this guys house.. i asked him if he thought it was fair for me that i am constantly with these kids and i dont get to go hang out with my friends or do anything and was it fair that he went out and stayed out all night and all day today and he said "yeah becuz i told you i was going" i just want to know anyones opinion on this am i really wrong for being upset about the situation and the fact that i dont ever spend time with him during the week and the weekends are the only chance but he spends them sleeping, or the computer, or out with his friends what can i do to improve the situation?
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