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Question

Have you ever adopted a baby and had one your self???

If so do you love your not adopted baby more then your adopted?

If you do you shouldent! If both of your children were falling off a cliff and you could only save one (adopted and none adopted) , you couldent choose cause they are both your kids!

What is your option???

Answer 1

i think u will love them both and don't let any1 of the children know u love 1 better then the other cause then their will be a war between the children and u don'twant to know wat will happen

Answer 2

I think this is a sick question.

Answer 3

i think you love your kids whether they are adopted or not. They both feel like your kids. You would jump from a cliff and save them both! =]

Answer 4

well i will try 2 save both u are just taking it life away and that not good at all

Answer 5

I would agree with you.. If you aren't prepared to give an adopted child your entire heart, and accept it into your home as your own flesh and blood, then maybe adoption isn't for you.. I'm pregnant with a little boy right now.. And my husband and I want to try again for a girl.. If it happens that we get another boy on the second try, we've decided that we are going to adopt a girl.. And I'm prepared to love her just like the others.

Answer 6

I have adopted an 8 yo girl with autism after having 2 bio boys and I am currently pregnant.  We decided not to adopt again because this child has lived with us for 2 years and the last 9 months have been h**l!  I agree that I shouldn't love one of my children more than the other, but the truth is that this little girl makes it very hard to like her let alone bond with her and establish a loving relationship.  Due to her autism diagnosis, this may not be her "fault"; however the situation remains.  Have you ever heard the saying that if you tell someone something long enough, they will begin to believe it.  The same is true for actions.  This child tantrums, says mean things to me several times daily and behaves much better for others.  These behaviors hurt deeply and the result is a lack of bonding.  Ideally each child would be loved equally, but that is not the real world.  I love each of my boys differently and am trying and praying daily to learn to love my daughter too.  Incidentally, I strive daily to treat all of my children exactly the same.  (my mom used to cout the jelly beans in our Easter baskets so each child would have the same amount) As for your question about the cliff-- ANY mother would do anything in her power to save both children at once.  If she fails --then at least she tried to save them both.  If she had chosen one over the other, the guilt would consume her!

Answer 7

Everyone I know with adopted kids love them all the same - how could they chose?  So what about those of us who have more than one biological child - I have 2 kids, are you saying I have to love one more than the other?!?!?!?

Answer 8

well i havent adopted anyone but i knw ppl who have... once a child is ur its your forever u treat them as u would any one of ur other children weather it be biological or not!!!!!  the ppl i have seen love both there adopted children and non adopted the same amount!

Answer 9

You are a 16 year old girl who needs to do something constructive and worthwhile with your time!

Here are some possibilities:

Volunteer at:

Your local church

A day care

A women's shelter

Your local library

A food pantry

A homeless shelter

A children's hospital

Get going!!!!

Answer 10

Hello there. I am from a family with three adopted children and one natural child.

I can say that NO WAY do my parents love one of their children more than the other. All of us are their children whether biologically related or not...and I think this is true for most families. Just a misconception most people have about adoption.

Answer 11

I would not put my children in the situation where either one of them would have to fall off a cliff

Answer 12

Okay I can answer this question for you I was told that i could not have kids so I adopted a little boy then when he was 18 months old I ended up pregnant.  So I have 2 children now one adopted and one not.  I Love both my children the same.  One I got to choose and he is the love of my life and the other one I gave birth to.  God must have wanted me to adopted this little boy and that is why I ended up pregnant later on.  I use to pray all the time to get pregnant.  But I think the prayers are the one's that are not answered because I don't know if I would have adopted my son had I got pregnant first.  I could NEVER imagine my life with out either of my kids you can never pick which one you love more.

Answer 13

I am an adoptive mother.  I think parents find that they love their children (all adopted, all bio, or both) differently but equally and that they bond with each of their children differently.  Forming a bond with an adopted child IS different (not less) than with a bio child, and that is why adopted parents actively use attachment parenting techniques.  With a biological child, there has been a biological connection for 9 months before meeting face to face, and the child knows that connection and turns to their mother.  With an adopted child, there is loss involved.  The child may not turn to the parent for comfort and love right away (even an infant).  This can make it harder for parents to feel a bond right away.  It is important for adoptive parents know this and that it takes time to form attachments in any human relationship.  This does not mean that attachment and bonding doesn't occur, it just hasn't had the jump start of the womb time.  I don't think any adoptive parent would say they love a biological child more, the bonding just happens in a different way.  I don't have any bio children, but I do know that I love my daughter with all my heart and soul, more than anyone else in the world, and more than life itself.

Answer 14

I would choose the one that was closest distance to me.  That way I would have more of a chance of at least saving one of my kids.

Answer 15

i guess this is something what happened to you huh...

I have two kids and both are mine and i love them but for each is different kind of love, remember that you need to be lovable, so people will love you. I understand that unconditional love is very romantic, but we all human and human tend to love or be nicer to those who are more lovable.

Just be nice, try to not hurt people and they will love you, and will be loyal in their love no matter who you r adopted or not.

Cheers

Answer 16

I had two babies and then adopted two school age kids (were 7 & 10 at the time).  My kids are now 17, 15, 13 & 9.

I love them all just as much as the other.  I don't show any preference to any of them.

I can't answer your last question, I'm sorry about that.  I don't know which one I'd save.  No idea.  How about I find a way to save them all?