· Should adopted children have the right to know their biological parents? ?

Question

· Should adopted children have the right to know their biological parents? ?

Answer 1

I think once they get to the age of 18 then yes they should know the name of their parents.

I believe in letting the adopted child knowing they are adopted at a younger age and when they are curious when they are older they have the right to know.  

Answer 2

ONLY if the biological parents agree.   Since your 'real' parents loved you enough to take you into their home, it would be nice to ask their opinion too!

Answer 3

Definitally.

Ive always wanted to know who my real parents are.

My mom says I have to wait, My dad disagrees.

I am 14. and I feel like I should meet them.

I truely love my whole family, and wouldn't trade them for the world,

but my biological mother and father are a part of me, even if they haven't been there for me, they are still a part of me and my life.

Answer 4

Only if the adoptive parents and the biological parents agree.  

Answer 5

It so really depends, I think after they are 18 sure but, only if the birth parents want it as well. Any younger than that I am against because, I believe that having the biological parents involved in their lives can really undermined the adopted parents authority. Also, there are some birth mothers and fathers out there who do not want that contact either and that should also be respected.

Answer 6

My best friend gave up a child for adoption. They agreed in the begining that it would be an open adoption (her son knows he was adopted and knows that his birth-mother's Name) he also has a picture of her while she was pregnant with him. Every year my friend sends a birthday card to his mother with a letter telling the family about her life. I know that she is quite candid in these letters without being graphic. In turn they send my friend a letter every year on her son's birthday as well, giving her a new picture, sometimes artwork, and a detailed letter on what is going on in his life and the life of his family. It has not been easy. When her son's parents went through a divorce my friend was very torn and wondered if she'd done the right thing. My friends children know that thier mommy had a baby when she was too young to take care of him and so she gave him to a family that would take wonderful care of him. After the first initial "will you give us away too?" questions were answered, and reassured, and reassured again, the kids are very excited to know they have a sibling out there.

When her son turns eighteen he will be given all of her information, last name, addresss, phone numbers and she will send him an open plane ticket to come visit her anytime he choses, if he choses. She is aware that he may not.

They all felt that minimal contact between her and him, especially in the turbulent adolescent years, was important. They worried about the whole, "your not my real mother" and "I'll go live with my real mom." issue coming up. (Which it has not)

When he turns eighteen I suppose the verdict will be in on how well this system does, but to me it seems to have made the best out of a situation that cannot be easy for anyone. It also facilitates the knowledge that he was loved, not only by his adoptive parents but by the girl that was too young to give him what every parent wants for the child.  

Answer 7

I think they most definitely do. They should know about the people who gave them life. It also gives many children closure about their adoption.

Answer 8

Well..they should be able to know where they came from and family history at the very least.

Answer 9

Yes, but the rights of the parents should be taken into account too.

Answer 10

Yes...no matter what they are their parents...and no matter what, a child will always want to know...whether it be good or bad.

Answer 11

no you cant tell him about the past parents. he will feel guilty for the rest of his life.

Answer 12

YES!! if the kid wants to know who they are then i believe they should be told.. kids will always love their parents no matter what, but most adopted kids also would like to know where they came from, and then it should be the kids choice to actually meet them or not...  GOOD LUCK!!   :)

Answer 13

I think they have the right to know the medical history of the biological parents, but no, not the biological parents themselves.

I all for it if all parties involved want it and the adopted child is a legal adult.  However, if one side does not want to know the other, then that is their choice.