◆◆◆Expats◆◆◆- Some help please?

Question

I am 18 living and working in East-Sussex, U.K. My father of three other brothers have all returned one by one back to the U.K to their place of birth.

I was brought up in an english - afrikaans home for the past seventeen years {been here a year now}.

I've come upon an urge to be around other South Africans as much as i can it keeps me happier wich is just a factor of nature.

Now to cut to the chase and lay my question -

I tend to have the belief of marrying a South African girl as to keep the tradition alive [Afrikaans/ (white South African) what ever you want to call it] ♀♂

Should i worry bout this at all? do think its all in the past and i should move on.

Thanks for taking the time to read/answer - and those who want to leave there self pitty stupid answers , nock yourself out!

Answer 1

Your beliefs are your own there is no need to justify them to anyone. Move on if you can but if you can't the solution will proably come to you, good luck

So marky I would have thought that English loud mouth blondes would have been a perfect match for a bigoted pea brain like you. If you don't like it then get the h**l out moron.

Answer 2

Good answer from Cat. I'd say, it's okay to marry whomever you want as long as you're happy with your decision. My criterion is that I don't want my gene pool to be weakened, so I'd either marry an Asian (who have the highest IQ's on average) or a White woman. Just so happens I find Asian ladies exotic. But if I'd found the right White lady, that would've been fine, too. But I could never have seen myself marrying a Black. There are just too many differences.

Answer 3

I don't understand what the question is. Anyway when it comes to that sort of thing no one is a racist. You know what they say, hulle is almal pienk op die binnekant, before the howls of protest, that is an Afrikaans tradition. LOL!!!!

Answer 4

I understand how you feel as I was in the same position as you are in now!

However, we are so young there is no point worrying about it. You never know when and who you will fall in love with!

I am Zimbabwean with SA/ Afrikaans blood in me and I always wanted to marry (still do) someone with the same "blood line" if you like as my own.

I dated a few Brits but never again! (maybe I was looking in the wrong places!) However, I then met my boyfriend through his cousin who was from Zim and we got to know each other and now we are very much in love and in a steady relationship he a South Africa (His ma is Afrikaans)

There are plenty of South Africans/ Afrikaners here in the UK.

But you know you may not necessarily fall in love with a South African you may find a nice British girl (that's not sarcasm either LOL)

Answer 5

Marry the girl you fal in love with but what ever you do, do not marry one of these load mouthed,opinionated English girls. South African chicks are best really. I live up North and I am horrified by these chicks. Beautiful blonde girls with sewer mouths.

Answer 6

By all means, go out and mingle with South Africans in the UK, and get a taste of it.  If you do find your soul mate, then it was meant to be.  Just don´t go out with the main intention of looking for a wife.

Try googling for SA groups in  the UK:

http://www.rainbownation.com/uk/clubs/in...

http://southafricanexpats.org/default.as...

http://www.rainbownation.com/uk/index.as...

http://www.southafrica-atyourservice.com...

In the end it is, like the others say, up to you to keep  those traditions that you treasure.

I a m married to a German, and live in Germany, and my husband is very familiar with SA.  We braai most weekends, summer and winter, coffee and rusks early in the morning, bobotie, curries, rotis and all the other good SA foods. So you see, it also works with a non-South African partner.  It does help when there is a lot of supp port from your partner.

Answer 7

It doesn't matter who you marry. Some people here, like Hennie, have married non-SA's, but they still keep their tradition alive through their kids. Just because you marry a SA it doesn't mean that you will keep your tradition. It is up to you to keep your tradition. Most cases your wife will want to keep your culture if not then she is not worth it.

I wouldn't say don't worry about it and it is all in the past and you should move on. It is part of your culture and you should be proud of it. Pass it on to your kids. Let them know about it. Tell them stories. My son at the moment is reading Herman Charles Bosman. He loves the stories and he asks many questions about the Boers etc. You can keep your culture alive no matter who you marry.

Answer 8

Nothing wrong with keeping the tradition alive. Do what you feel is best!

Answer 9

Yes marry an Afrikaners I doubt if the other normal girls will understand the boere tradition of hatred, homophobia, antisemitism and racism.



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